Faulty Thoughts And Beliefs Affect Your Relationships!
How many people
would dare to face themselves and be honest with themselves about the truth of
their relationship and decide to end it themselves when they feel it doesn’t
serve them or in their best interest.
Most relationships have their rough patches and edges, and it’s
generally a great idea to work on conflict management, resolution, compromise
and flexibility together as one or as a team.
When there is suspicion in a relationship, the love starts
to wane and may eventually die out if the cause is not addressed and worked
through by both parties in order to sustain the longevity of that relationship
especially if it was built on love and affection.
The
Human Mind Sees Negativity!
The human mind is wired for negativity and it sees chaos
and trouble while in your true essence you truly are a being of light and love
and ever so interconnected with all life through the great source of all life.
Life is a great school to learn to give love and receive
love but we must choose love albeit which principally is your state of
consciousness.
But the challenges of the hustle and bustle of it all can
bring you to the state of fear, anxiety and worry and before you know it, you
are already moving from the state of love and gratitude to that of fear and
worry.
Growing
And Evolving!
But when you are evolving and expanding, you
automatically take responsibility for your life and existence. You want to
create a more comfortable and pleasing life for yourself.
You begin to take charge of all events and that means
taking over the pilotship and control of your life and recreating your life.
By this stage you are truly expanding and can see the
great illusion of life and the picture is beginning to take shape as you understand
that you mustn’t be caught up in the game of life and the narratives and play
of the mind.
That you must only see that which you desire to see irrespective of your outer circumstances especially of the picture the mind is painting.
Love
And Understand Your Partner!
When you realize that your partner is a being of light
and love like you are, who has their short comings and is doing the best that
they can do in the present moment, then you can easily overlook any shortcoming
in your partner and stop the narratives of the mind.
When you can truly be conscious and realize the game
playing out and try, really try to stay positive and ahead of your mind.
You come to the realization that you are not the mind and
you are not what you are thinking, you are not your thoughts.
Remember that the mind is simply a tool to help you
navigate the lower worlds like the physical world where you exist and since it
has made itself your protector would turn you away from change which is usually
for the better.
Expansion
Brings Understanding!
But when you are expanded and are becoming more aware,
then you can now take charge and become the master and make the mind the tool
it was meant to be and not the master it had made itself.
The mind doesn’t care about your feelings or opinions it
does what it’s programmed to do and what it has always done and which has
become the status quo.
So by expanding and taking charge, you become aware of
the serenity and truth of life and what it really is.
Then you and your partner can continue your connection in
light and love through the great source of all life that has brought you too
together to learn to give and receive love and to help each other become the
best versions of yourself.
The Right To End A
Relationship!
But at the end of the day, if your relationship isn’t making you
happy, you have every right to end it and move to better or a better one that
serves your best interest.
You don’t need a big reason or excuse that you aren’t good enough especially for someone else, as long as you are enough and good enough for yourself then that’s all that matters.
It’s all about you and your happiness!
If your lives are deeply intertwined especially if you have
children or if your partner is dependent on you for all their needs and sustenance,
the transition may then be complicated and you may need to maintain status quo
or stay in that relationship at least for a while you try to resolve these
issues.
But you always have the right to decide not to be romantically
or sexually involved with your partner, spouse or mate anymore and you don’t
have to answer to anyone about your choices and decisions nor explain your
reasons.
Standing up for all of these rights does not make you
unreasonable, demanding, or too picky or too bossy, it just means you have
taken over the wheels of your life and are driving your life yourself.
Your choices and decisions are no longer on automatic or
auto-pilot but you are consciously making these choices and decisions and are
taking and have accepted responsibility for your life and reality
If there is anyone telling you differently then it’s not your
business to bother about them as they probably have some internalized some
pretty crappy messages about what women are worth and that’s where they are at
the moment.
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post, please drop us a line.
In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in
life:
“Thank
you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love
reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be.
Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean Voice Dart!
These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones
will serve you even more:
“I
wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light
of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within
you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert
Adam
“Don’t
you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I
am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your
heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all
of our core issues is not a reality for most people.
Taking responsibility to see life differently without
justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would
really help you in the long run.
Every condition, disease or
disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with
and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions
or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing
has occurred and a miracle has happened.
Every problem preludes a
negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and
guard them jealously.
Nothing can stop you if you
have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your
limitations.
‘Let yourself be drawn by
the stronger pull of that which you truly love’
The purpose of life is to
discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself
as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine
source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.
As long as you don’t or you
refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can
overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back
handsomely.
A lesson you avoided in a
past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right
or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the
last experience until you recognize it.
This is an interactive
universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we
want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.
Our fears always surface
when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and
conquer it.
You can take back control of
your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things
and have things the way you want it to be.
It takes taking
responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because
whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody wants to listen to
your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except
you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it
around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.
If and when you are now truly
ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your
life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have
taken control of your life.
That’s when the creative
centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the
course of your life and manifest your destiny.
To succeed in life, you must
refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or
condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The most important qualities
are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that
you are entitled to abundance in your life.
You can do anything you want
to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.
Victims do not hold that
belief!
So ask yourself – are you a
victim?
Sometimes a little help from
a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can
help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours
only.
Remember if you have
questions or need further clarification, please contact me on the email and
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