It’s Your Job To Uplift Yourself And Not Others!

Why do you feel it’s your job to make others happy when they are sad or take care of them when they are down when you haven’t really taken care of the most important person in your life and that’s you?

You give up loving yourself because you desire, seek and desperately want validation from others – family, friends, coworkers and colleagues and people generally to feel complete and wrong and yet you are so far from the truth and grossly mistaken.

The only person that can love you unconditionally for who and what you are is YOU and you should love yourself unconditionally irrespective of what other people think or say about you.

Whatever comes from outside of you is not important and you shouldn’t even listen to it nor pay attention to it, the only thing worth paying attention to is only what comes from inside of you from your higher self and true essence.

Growing And Evolving!

But when you are evolving and expanding, you automatically take responsibility for your life and existence. You want to create a more comfortable and pleasing life for yourself.

You begin to take charge of all events and that means taking over the pilotship and control of your life and recreating your life.

By this stage you are truly expanding and can see the great illusion of life and the picture is beginning to take shape as you understand that you mustn’t be caught up in the game of life and the narratives and play of the mind.

That you must only see that which you desire to see irrespective of your outer circumstances especially of the picture the mind is painting.

Love And Understand Everyone!

When you realize that everyone you meet or deal with is a being of light and love like you are and all have their short comings and are doing the best that they can do in the present moment, you can easily overlook any shortcoming in people and stop the narratives of the mind.

When you can truly be conscious and realize the game playing out and try, really try to stay positive and ahead of your mind especially when the mind tells you that you have to fix people in your lives like your partner or your family.

Remember, it is not your job to fix anyone, they will deal with their issues and fix their own problems at their own time and at their own pace.

Most people would rephrase to means – being aware.

This Comes With An Expanded State Of Consciousness!

Awareness means you know the mind game and how the mind likes to stay in its mental grooves and aberrations and doesn’t like change of any form as it likes to stay always in status quo.

You come to the realization that you are not the mind and you are not what you are thinking, you are not your thoughts.

Remember that the mind is simply a tool to help you navigate the lower worlds like the physical world where you exist and since it has made itself your protector would turn you away from change which is usually for the better.

Expansion Brings Understanding!

But when you are expanded and are becoming more aware, then you can now take charge and become the master and make the mind the tool it was meant to be and not the master it had made itself.

The mind can no longer tell you what to do especially when it comes to other people – their lives and business and you respectfully grant them their space.

The Mind!

The mind doesn’t care about your feelings or opinions it does what it’s programmed to do and what it has always done and which has become the status quo.

So by expanding and taking charge, you become aware of the serenity and truth of life and what it really is.

Then you can continue your connection with others in light and love through the great source of all life that has brought you together with them to learn to give and receive love and to help you one become the best version of themselves.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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