Are You Paying Attention To Your Emotions!
Many traditions speak of the opposing forces within us which are vying for our attention and love. Native American stories speak of two wolves, the angry wolf and the loving wolf, who both live and reside inside of us.
Life Experiences Grow With Us!
Our life experiences
grow out of the wolf that we choose we feed at any given time. Too often it
seems the easiest path is to engage in hate and fear, rather than be
compassionate, loving, truthful, and generous.
The negative and
fearful emotions seems to manifest much quicker than the positive and more
loving ones.
We need to bring
mindfulness to our daily life, paying attention to the angry wolf and catching
our emotions and thoughts as they arise, if we want to live a peaceful,
successful, and happy life.
Society Mandates No Emotions!
Society
especially has made it mandatory that any male – any right thinking male
shouldn’t show emotion in public as it is sign of weakness. The male pride and
arrogance forbids the men from being himself and showing emotions.
They
couldn’t be more wrong!
When
you cannot connect with your emotions, it because you have created an
identification with the mind which has created a false self-called “the ego’ as
a substitute for basking and manifesting in your true essence and being.
The
ego needs are numerous and endless and it feels threatened and vulnerable and
lives in constant state of fear and desires. Always needing or wanting one
thing or the other and yet when it receives the gift, is never full satisfied
as other needs and wants arise to take its place.
It
is always in a constant state of “fight or flight”, believing the world is a
cruel and hostile place to live in and everyone is after you for one reason or
the other.
Maintain Your Sense Of Balance!
For
you to maintain this state of false security, society tells you that you cannot
show emotions and appear weak especially if you are a male.
The
ego is always seeking something to attach itself to in order to uphold and
strengthen its illusionary sense of self – being a man and therefore readily
attaches to your problems and the sense of self importance and security.
Many
in the throes of this great illusion don’t recognize the play of the mind and
therefore unconsciously or sometimes consciously do not want to be free of
them, because of the false sense of security and power it gives them as it
would mean the loss of the self if they desire freedom.
They
forget this remarkable but wise words of old:
What You Resist Persist!
Life
is a series of events that are interconnected yet each is a separate lesson
with an invaluable lesson that is meant to equip you with the right tools and
skills on your sojourn on your mission on earth to become more Godlike.
Emotions
are meant to teach you great wisdom only when you allow them in without
resistance of course, move with the flow of the lesson inherent and let it play
out.
Don’t
try to manipulate the scheme of events or control the outcome, because then you
would only be deceiving yourself and come out the ultimate loser.
Get
this straight once and for all – you cannot control the events of your life and
you cannot control the divine essence from which you spring from.
You
are its beloved, borne out of its great love and mercy and is sustained for as
long as its love abides and your lesson in that particular incarnation keeps
running. Karmic lessons must be worked out and resolved before you can move to
the next level.
Karmic Lessons Are Your Growth!
Most
karmic lessons are just corrections of our mental aberrations and they are:
1. Anger
which is principally borne out of fear
2. Greed
3. Vanity
4. Lust
5. Attachment
If
you truly look at the list above and securitize thoroughly, you would see that
they are the ills of the world summarized into simple terms and if you can
guard and watch out for them then you have the power to shape your life the way
you want it and fulfil your destiny and birthright.
The
mind makes you believe that the world and its creation is your enemy and that
life is simply not fair yet this is a great illusion because the laws of God
and consequently that of the world is fair and just.
Everything
in your life you have created and manifested whether you believe it or not.
Perceiving
an unseen or imaginary enemy is the way of the mind to keep you enmeshed in the
throes of illusion and give control of your life to it.
Take Control Of Your Mind!
When
you decide you have had enough and would rather want to create your life as you
want it then you are ready to take responsibility for your life and recreate
the events and circumstances of your life.
Then
you would discover the deception and illusion surrounding all that you have
been taught and believed to be true especially from childhood. You see how your
childhood training had created a pattern that has brought the chain of events
of your life into existence and how you manifested everything in your world.
You
soon discover that all macho talks and the likes is just a way to cover up
inadequacies, lack and wait you get it – fear. Yet it is absolutely unnecessary
and a simple way out or solution is simply to work through it and resolve it.
Work On Yourself!
Working
through your emotions in the name of vulnerability actually makes other people
see you as a human being capable of emotions and not some robot on the prowl.
It
shows you as flesh and blood and not as some insufferable and unbearable person
who is too ashamed to let others see your weaknesses and flaws yet it’s your
weaknesses and flaws that make you human and capable of giving love and being
loved in return.
When
you persist in resisting your emotions, it persist and becomes overtaken by the
mind which now in control having been made a master by you unconsciously, keeps
it locked up in denial while keeping it away from the conscious mind but it
remains buried in the subconscious mind.
You
believe you have everything under control yet you don’t because it is running
in the background under the control of the mind and before long you begin to
question why your life is the way it is.
You wonder
why your relationships are doomed to fail even though you gave it your best
shot, you turn the blame over to the other person and the world and label
others as the perpetuator and yourself the victim.
You
forget that everything you see in your life you have attracted by virtue of
what is going on in your inner world whether you are conscious of it or not. So
you attracted the doomed relationships because you refused to take
responsibility and work through your emotions, learn the lesson and be done with
it.
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In
closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank
you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love
reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be.
Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean
Voice Dart!
These
words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I
wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light
of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within
you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert
Adam
“Don’t
you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I
am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your
heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking
responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a
reality for most people.
Taking
responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and
blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long
run.
Every
condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for
review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt
and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and
that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.
Every
problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and
emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing
can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move
through your limitations.
‘Let
yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’
The
purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and
experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a
part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of
the divine.
As
long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a
challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will
pay you back handsomely.
A
lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until
you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson
is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.
This
is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons
and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.
Our
fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to
face the lesson and conquer it.
You
can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want
it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.
It
takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life
because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody
wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t
take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and
desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions
come in.
If
and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the
patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are
causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s
when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to
help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.
To
succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the
prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The
most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and
that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.
You
can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe
that it is possible.
Victims
do not hold that belief!
So
ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes
a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a
host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is
yours and yours only.
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