Release The Fear Of Abandonment And Live: It’s Your Call!

Why is it that people have such a great fear of being abandoned and because of that, they won’t allow themselves to just live and enjoy the present moment without worry for tomorrow?

Why are relationships so complicated?

When it can be so simple yet so loving and ecstatic?

Relationships Can Be Easy!

Even foster children and wards are no exception, when they are matched with foster parents who show them nothing but love and affection, they close up and remain locked in this shadow world called “fear”.

They believe that no-one can ever love them and truly love them as they deserve since they were abandoned by their foster parents.

They don’t want to believe this great and amazingly loving parents who have come into their lives will be any different from the parents they never got to meet who abandoned them.

It gets old!

Sometimes they eventually come out of it in relatively good time to create a great satisfying life for themselves and other times it’s so difficult and they go through a horrendous period in their life trying to create a good life for themselves.

Love Is All That Matters!

In relationships and love matters it’s no different, partners become co-dependents and live a life of fear, worry and stress on their partners cheating on them or leaving then for another or even simply for good.

They forget that to truly love another or others is to set them free and if they are meant to be yours or be with you, they will come back to you no matter what had taken them away from you in the first place.

Sometimes people have to go through some experiences that are meant to shape them into better people or even to learn to love and do better.

Fear Is An Illusion – It’s All In Your Head Believe It Or Not!

Why are people so afraid of what they don’t understand and cannot apprehend yet it is a palpable thing in the society and has wrecked many relationships, friendships, families and caused so much havoc in the society.

Fear Is An Intangible Thing!

Fear according to the English Dictionary is a strong, uncontrolled and unpleasant emotion caused by an actual or perceived threat.

It creates a condition called “phobia” which is a sense of fear induced by something or someone causing an internal agitation and discomfort.

Whenever a seed like that of anger, bitterness, Unforgiveness, resentment and the likes comes up into your mind and manifests as a mental image or picture, the first thing you can do is to touch the seed of the opposite pole and invite it to come up too.

The opposite is simply “Love”.

Love And Awareness Removes Fear!

At that moment instead of paying attention to whatever is in front of you, you should go back inwards to the source and tenderly embrace the wounded self or part of yourself that needs healing.

 

You can talk directly to the self with the language of love, saying, I am going to embrace you my fear and stay with you loving you and accepting you and the lessons you have brought for me. I will see and understand the lesson and will move on from there”.

 

It will simply breathe and bask in the euphoria of life and come to the balance of the duality of this world. You would come to the understanding that life is about balance between the positive and the negative and fear will vanish from your life.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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