Trauma Reveals The New Normal: There Is No Back To The Old You!

Trauma can be a gift to the person involved to see what the person cannot see otherwise or even isn’t aware of in their lives.

It carries simultaneously a lesson (for a reason and for a season) and a blessing (the change of consciousness which comes simultaneously when you understand the lesson in front of you).

But if you dwell in pain, misery and frustration seeing only the pain, then how can you see the lesson bring brought to you time and time again which you refuse to pay attention to because you were drowning in self-inflicted misery.

You are so set in your mind and you have given over power of your life and reality over to the mind allowing it to run its narratives and play.

It is very resistant to change, I repeat it is very resistant to change and would fight tooth and nail not to change its narratives and conclusions but rather to play it out again and again.

Why you ask?

Because this is where it is very comfortable and would rather stick it out here.

For as long as you give the control of your life, issues, problems and challenges to the mind, you will remain in a rut and only taking back control and facing that which you feared the most and taking it head-on can save the day.

If after sometime you really get to that point where you are tired of it all and decide you want a change and you want things to be different, all you have to do is create the change and be the change toy desire and need.

How you may ask?

Simple – by transformation.

Transformation means changing the narratives of your reality and your life into something you would rather have and want, it means that you have to wrestle back control of your life from your mind and its barrage of constant negativity and gloom to your dream of joy and ecstasy.

Transformation means totally changing the story of your life by taking responsibility for all that has happened in your life whether you are conscious of it or not.

It means facing your greatest fear but taking the plunge and taking that bold step forward to change the narratives of your reality.

It means going from negative and negativity to positive and positivity. From sorrow, Anguish and pain to gratitude, love and joy.

As soon as you take that bold step forward and have faced the fear you dreaded all along and have decided to run with it, your creative faculty will open up and you can now see and view everything in your life from a whole point and not from parts.

You can now see everything totally outlined for you, where before you saw no way out, now you see how to maneuver as the solution and answer is right there in front of you.

You have to die to be reborn!

Shed the old for the new to emerge!

You can find many reasons not to fly and embrace who you truly are – a majestic divine being by blaming other people for causing your reluctance or certain situations for your hesitation.

The excuses go on and on and on and you justify yourself for the reasons of your failure expecting acceptance and sympathy and the mind keys into this story as its narrative.

In an effort to stop you from threatening your own security and safety and playing the role of the ever dutiful and faithful body guard and protector, the mind will set up myriad of reasons and an overflowing sea of excuses why all this is happening.

Always remember, you are not your mind and your mind considers the status quo as security. It would do anything and everything to keep the status quo and keep you protected even when the narrative is wrong.

It would do anything and everything to prevent anything that threatens that security or what can be rightfully termed change aka – transformation.

So you must confront that fear whatever it is by realizing it’s just a figment of your imagination (of the mind) IT IS NOT REAL and work through it.

Once you realize that behind every experience lies a lesson and the mind through the body sends the information out about the lesson that keeps occurring and it being ignored up until the lessons gets escalated to a life threatening disease or illness that brings you to your knee in fear and agitation.

All you have to do is face this and get to the heart of the lesson, work right through it (do not ignore it or suppress it as it will only escalate the issue at hand).

As soon as you work through to understand the lesson which is always about a mental glitch or passion which has taken a hold on you, you understand the lesson and that’s when change and transformation can begin to take place in your life.

The lesson for the situation and the circumstances is in that pain that brings you to your knees long enough for you to acknowledge it and work right through it and resolve it whether it’s a past life or a current life situation or circumstances.

But you must be ready for this change or transformation enough to you to be willing to jump out of the nest and into the unknown knowing that this great divine source from which you have your being will always keep you secured and protected.

When you have this state of mind and the mind is rid of the fear and anxiety, then the creative centers open like the sun opening up its warm rays to the delight of the flowers who reach out to kiss the golden rays which are life giving and life sustaining.

You suddenly can understand what’s before you and the uniqueness and unity of all life becomes as clear to you as the morning light and like a champion in the game of chess, you can begin to arrange and rearrange your moves and strategy to overcome these mental aberrations and glitches that have caused the issues in the first place.

And that’s when true and lasting transformation begins to occur and your life and circumstances begin to change for the better and for the best, because you jumped out of the nest and flew into the unknown which was the land of freedom, wonder, bliss and everlasting joy and happiness.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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