Don’t Resist Your Pain Rather Move with It And Work Through It!

It’s funny how people are so quick to run away from pain and anything that is associated to pain, like anger, sadness and unhappiness, sorrow and grief, jealousy and envy, fear and anxiety. But if they were to take the time to actually look into these emotions and feelings, they may actually be surprised with what they will discover.

Running away from anything in life means resistance or resisting that situation. We are all familiar with the popular saying “anything you resist persists”. It bears to repeat then that running away from pain and grief means you aren’t ready to face these situations and the blessings they bring which is inherent if you really care to look or understand.

Life Is About Facing Yourself!

If we understand that life with all its attendant challenges, situations and problems bring joy to the greatness that is you as “Soul”. Soul didn’t just come to the world to get all caught up in its intricacies and web of power and deceit but for much more.

You are here as an ever evolving power from which a greater power (God or the Universe or whatever this great source of life means to you) works to perfect itself and its creations.

You around you at nature and its beauty, a wonder beyond wonder and let nature embrace you in its web of love and delight and show you wonders beyond your limited imagination of the mind and its encompassing limitation of matter, space, energy and time.

Pain Helps You Overcome Negativity In You!

Pain and grief if you would but trust this great power and presence from which you exist is only a passing phase that brings you a great lesson from the past or present that you aren’t aware of or have refused to acknowledge, learn from and move beyond applying it practically into your life and thereby creating a change in your consciousness which is what it’s all about in the first place.

If you will but embrace it, you will be shocked to find that what you felt was pain and sorrow actually is nothing but an attachment that your mind has refused to let go of and when you realize this and let it go, you experience a joy so wonderful that you cannot even begin to describe it.

You almost laugh at yourself at your own folly in thinking “oh I cannot bear it” “oh, how can I ever survive this” when it’s nothing at all but a figment of your imagination (your mind).

What Would You Do If You Had No Fear?

I bet you would do just about anything you want or desire and be fearless even in the face of imminent danger and death.

What would you do if you realize that what you thought was your grief and pain was actually a figment of your imagination (mind) and doesn’t even exist because you are life itself, indestructible, cannot die and lives on eternally?

I bet you would laugh and laugh at your own folly rejoicing in your truth (the truth of your beingness) instead at what you thought was your death and demise like the great poet Rumi said eons ago.

Let me enlighten you how you can overcome pain and grief with gratitude and love for life, I will share a story to explain:

A young lady in her forties, whom we will call Rebecca according to her and in her own words, she was into relationships eager to please people especially the men in her life.

She felt that to keep these men in her life, she would bow down to their every whim and desire and do their bidding just so they stay with her. She would forgo so many things for herself so she could make them happy and yet they had little appreciation for her.

They treated her so poorly and walked over her still expecting her to do whatever they wanted without any regards for her feelings and wants and particularly her happiness.

They still left her for other females who wouldn’t even bother with all what she did for them or even condone what she went through for these men.

One day, standing in front of the mirror she realized how she hadn’t loved herself because if she had, she wouldn’t have gone through everything she did for these me.

She realized at that moment with gratitude in her heart and tears in her eyes how she had been brought to that very moment to truly love herself knowing she was better than she thought and deserved better than she had received and she made a promise to herself that she would love herself more and would attract only those who were her worth.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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