The Ego Cannot Survive Without Conflict And War Hence The Negative Destructive Thoughts!

The Ego is that part of every man and woman, boy and girl, child or adult which keeps us grounded and attuned and at the same time attached to the world.

It is the great subconscious mind that keeps you sustained and maintained at all times whether you are conscious or unconscious, it keeps your heart pumping and maintains the blood levels, the organs and endocrine systems and all the entire body parts functioning optimally.

You Must Break Free Of Those Unhealthy And Destructive Thought Patterns!

Have you ever sat down to wonder why you do some things that you do and yet you can’t seem to break this unhealthy habit and it keeps happening over and over again until it is a repetitive cycle influencing not only your behaviour but your life as a whole.

Adverse Effect Of Wrong Mental Behaviour!

But when a boy likes the idea of beating females and weaker ones especially at school – bullies, they naturally tend to move into that area unconsciously hence the need to monitor how you think and behave.

 

They find excitement to see other cowering in fear and feel macho and powerful about it. Hence the ‘Ego” and the reason a lot of men watch football and wrestling is a big thing now.

 

The Blame Game!

Have you ever wondered why it’s so easy to blame other people so easily for our life’s challenges or take offense so quickly when others pull our strings or rile us up?

Does it even cross our minds to look deeper at the other person’s behaviour and attitude to understand the cause or reason for such in the first place?

Especially if it’s out of character for the other person.

So many times we are so lost in our issues and situations of life especially when life throws one challenge after another at us, that we forget that other people are going through their own challenges too.

Breaking The Unhealthy Pattern!

Some people can handle their challenges, trials and tribulations very well and are courageous as they face it and work through it to bring balance into their life.

Some others cannot handle their own life’s challenges, trials and tribulations and for some it’s even much worse for yet some people as they are knocked out flat and defeated even before they are started.

Changing Your Behaviour!

They are so overtaken by their mind and its narratives that they simply cannot see through the illusion played out by their minds.

They are so lost in the drama and narratives that they totally believe it’s their play and act accordingly.

They show up to those handling their issues and challenges as people who are so fearful, angry and obsessed with lamentation and complain.

Take A Step Back And Review Life!

Except they take a step back to review what’s happening to them especially why they are displaying the various negative emotions and vibes that they are emitting, they cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel and will forever be lost down the rabbit hole.

Its gloomy and dreary I know that!

They are like the Ostrich which has stuck its head in the sand and is refusing to come out and look around it again.

It simply refuses to face reality and would rather stay stuck in the emotions that run its narratives and create the experiences and sequence of life events that unfold towards his fears.

Accept Responsibility For Your Life And Reality!

This people will always lament and complain and would prefer to keep doing so and when you attempt to help them see through the illusions of their minds, they would rather prefer to remains stuck in their minds because it’s easy to give power to the mind.

They prefer to have something else take responsibility while they take the back burner and just play second fiddle and ride along and see as it goes.

The mind ever happy to protect you from the “supposed enemy and threat to life”, would gladly continue to run its narratives and create scene after scene and act after act.

All the while portraying the ever faithful friend and ally wanting only to keep you safe and sound, will magnify these issues and problems until you lost in the mirage, getting deeper and deeper in the tangles of the illusion.

Take Charge!

When they finally decide to face their issues and identify the cause of their behaviour and mental attitudes that is adversely affecting their lives, then and only then can they bring about positive changes in their lives.

They can now see and realize the import of their negative mental and emotional states and behaviour in their lives and how it had created their life experiences and reality.

They can now go on to make on to make better informed choices from their new understanding of life and now change their lives for the better.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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