How To Express Your Emotions The Right Way!
It’s
Okay To Express Your Emotion!
Instead we need heartfelt compassion for
ourselves, and to accept all our emotions safely with the support of friends
and family.
In order to be calm and at ease with
ourselves, we need regular periods where we do something rather
strange-sounding: process our emotions.
As long as we are in denial of trauma
or any deep seated emotional disturbance, isolation or experience that we may
have had in the past, we’re
never going to understand addiction or what that truly means.
What Are Addictions!
Addictions are an attempt at escape from life or the trauma we are submerged in at that time and this society traumatizes people.
Life in this society means that a lot of people are going to become traumatized or will be traumatized at some point in life bearing in mind the many and varied demands of society and modern day living.
The connection between addiction and trauma must be recognized and accepted as the ultimate cause of the person’s state of consciousness or state of acceptance of life and reality.
It
is a common occurrence to see some people when they are faced with life’s usual
challenges and problems to turn to the sources of addiction as a means to
escape the situation or circumstance.
They
think when they consume these toxic substances they can readily escape their
problems and by some stroke of luck, it will have vanished or be over when they
get back to their normal senses.
They
refuse to deal with their challenges or too afraid to look deeper into how and
why such is happening in their lives.
Take Responsibility
For Your Life!
Their
refusal to take responsibility for the challenge that has presented itself will
drive them into these situations that are not necessary.
The
mind is a habit mind and as such will stick to its narratives and conclusions
irrespective of what is available before it. It doesn’t care for the truth or
the evidence before it.
Trauma
therefore is a gift to the person involved to see what the person cannot see
otherwise or even isn’t aware of.
It
carries simultaneously a lesson (for a reason and for a season) and a blessing
(the change of consciousness which comes simultaneously when you understand the
lesson in front of you).
But
if you dwell in pain, misery and frustration seeing only the pain, then how can
you see the lesson bring brought to you time and time again which you refuse to
pay attention to because you were drowning in self-inflicted misery.
The Mind IS Powerful And Must Be
Overcome!
You
are so set in your mind and you have given over power of your life and reality
over to the mind allowing it to run its narratives and play.
It
is very resistant to change, I repeat it is very resistant to change and would
fight tooth and nail not to change its narratives and conclusions but rather to
play it out again and again.
Why
you ask?
Because
this is where it is very comfortable and would rather stick it out here.
For
as long as you give the control of your life, issues, problems and challenges
to the mind, you will remain in a rut and only taking back control and facing
that which you feared the most and taking it head-on can save the day.
If
after sometime you really get to that point where you are tired of it all and
decide you want a change and you want things to be different, all you have to
do is create the change and be the change toy desire and need.
Remember
that the mind loves status quo and doesn’t like to move away from the familiar
to the unfamiliar or change, it would fight to remain in this throes of
negativity that it is in.
Most
times the mind would deceive you with the premise that it’s for your own good
or that it is protecting you which is all cock and bull story.
It
will only keep you trapped in that state or condition and worse still keep you
going down and further down the rabbit hole of illusion and chaos until you are
so lost or trapped that you don’t see a way out.
That
may even bring you to the level of even greater negativity that could bring on
deeper sinking into the pit of illusion and being buried in it and eventually
seeking death as the way out of this abysmal depth because you don’t want to
face what’s right in front of you.
You
don’t want to correct an error you made or have made that has caused problems
for you, maybe because it’s embarrassing or shameful and you cannot bear to
face such and be put through such harrowing experience.
So in view of this, I recommend change in consciousness, people
need to change their state of consciousness. Understanding and acceptance of
things and total surrender to divine will.
I
would love to hear from you or your thoughts on this post, please drop us a
line.
In
closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank
you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love
reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be.
Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean
Voice Dart!
These
words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I
wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light
of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within
you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert
Adam
“Don’t
you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I
am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your
heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking
responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a
reality for most people.
Taking
responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and
blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long
run.
Every
condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for
review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt
and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and
that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.
Every
problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and
emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing
can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move
through your limitations.
‘Let
yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’
The
purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and
experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a
part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of
the divine.
As
long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a
challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will
pay you back handsomely.
A
lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until
you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson
is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.
This
is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons
and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.
Our
fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to
face the lesson and conquer it.
You
can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want
it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.
It
takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life
because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody
wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t
take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and
desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions
come in.
If
and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the
patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are
causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s
when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to
help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.
To
succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the
prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to
succeed.
The
most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and
that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.
You
can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe
that it is possible.
Victims
do not hold that belief!
So
ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes
a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a
host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is
yours and yours only.
Remember
if you have questions or need further clarification, please contact me on the
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