Trauma is the Root Cause of Addiction!

Trauma means any serious injury to the body often resulting from violence or an accident. In some cases, it refers to an emotional wound leading to psychological injury and the event causes distress and pain

You Can’t Force Emotions!

You can’t force emotions; you really have to know what they are, the important question is what are the actual emotions underneath the action that are driving your behavior and where do these emotions come from?

 

It’s not a question of acting in the right emotion, it’s a question of understanding what the right emotion is, what emotion is best for you at any given time and the source emotions from which we are acting.

 

That is the really important question!

 

The deep pain of childhood trauma can be the root cause of an addiction!

The Effect Of Trauma Runs Deep!

Most people underdoing trauma, am talking about people at the hardcore level, street level drug users, people injecting cocaine and heroin and so on—not a single one of them ever came to me and said, they were traumatized, and are using that as an excuse to do drugs.

They just didn’t know nor realize that they were traumatized.

No doctor had ever pointed it out to them so they believe they were just fuck-ups or that there is something seriously wrong with them and they need to get their minds checked.

They think they are bad, some even think they are wicked and evil but in the deep core of themselves, this is not what they truly desire for themselves.

They know and understand that they are addicts but they didn’t realize that they are using the addiction to soothe a deep pain that was rooted in trauma that are experiencing or may have experienced and they can’t figure it out.

In all cases of addiction, there’s deep seated pain and anguish that comes out of trauma. The addiction is the person’s unconscious attempt to escape from this pain and anguish and be free of it.

Take Responsibility For Your Pain!

They assume that the addiction will help them numb the pain and eventually overcome the trauma so that they don’t have to deal with the cause of the trauma without realizing that the simple solution, is for them to face the trauma head-on, take it on, work through it, learn the learn inherent and move on to better understanding with the blessing also contained in it.

But like the Ostrich who would rather bury its head in the sand rather than face whatever was in front of it and deal with it, these people would rather bury themselves not in the sane but in their addiction and compel it to take away their pain and sorrow 

But alas they wake up the next day to face their pain and sorrow and they decide to go deeper into the addiction believing it will bring succor and relief if they take more and more and before long they are neck deep in the addiction and drowning in it.

That’s not just my personal opinion. It’s also what large-scale studies show.

In large population studies, you find that extreme trauma, like in any population in any country, where there is loss of land, violence and the forced abduction of their children, who were brought up for a hundred years in residential schools away from their families where they were sexually abused, generation after generation, there’s a huge link between that trauma and the addiction. That’s not a theory. It’s just reality.

 

Addiction is an unconscious attempt to escape from the pain of trauma!

We also know that the brain itself - the human brain itself, is shaped by the environment. The brain is not purely genetically programmed. 

Brain development occurs in reaction to the environment. The necessary conditions for healthy brain development are healthy relationships with responsive parents and siblings.

When the parenting environment becomes distorted or hostile and abusive, you’re actually distorting the brain’s development. This means they are going to be more likely to want to use substances (substance abuse) to feel better in their brain in order to achieve a different state of the brain.

Whether we are talking about the emotional pain and the shame and stigma that’s at the heart of addiction or we are looking at the brain physiology of addiction, which is very much influenced by childhood experiences, we are looking at the impact of trauma.

Brain development gets distorted in abusive and hostile environments!

When we understand that all behaviors are coping mechanisms for emotions that we are not able to deal with, then the focus could shift not just to changing behaviors, but actually understanding the emotions that underlie them.

We are not seeing what’s driving it and what’s underneath it and that’s at the heart and root the cause of all disease, disorder and malady.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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