Listening To Your Wounded Self!

When we speak of listening with compassion, we usually think of listening to someone else. But we must also listen to the wounded self or part that is inside of us.

The Wounded Self Seeks Attention!

Sometimes the wounded self in us needs all our attention and love and because the love is missing that’s why the wounded self-appeared in the first place.

The appearance of the wounded self was only because of the shortage or non-existence or even the disappearance of light and love in our lives which is our true consciousness and essence and divinity.

That little self might emerge from the depths of your consciousness and ask for your attention because it has a lesson to teach you and the lesson is repeating because you aren’t listening or paying attention to the important things in your life.

Be Open To See Answers!

If you are mindful and open to your true essence and divinity via the heart, you will hear his or her voice calling out for help especially when you are relaxed and at peace with yourself.

At that moment instead of paying attention to whatever is in front of you, you should go back inwards to the source and tenderly embrace the wounded self or part of yourself that needs healing.

You can talk directly to the self with the language of love, saying, “In the past, I left you alone. I went away from you. Now, I am very sorry. I am going to embrace you.”

Embrace Your Wounded Self!

You can say, “Sweetheart or my love (or whatever nickname or endearment you want to give to it),

I am here for you!

I will take good care of you!

I know you have suffered so much!

I have been so busy and neglectful!

I have neglected you, and now I have learned a way to come back to you!

If necessary, you have to cry together with that self or part of you going inward to embrace it, understand it and the lessons it brings to you and learn from it and finally bask in the blessing therein which is a higher state of consciousness.

Whenever you need to, you can sit and breathe with the self so that you are united and can feel its pain. You can declare to yourself - “Breathing in, I go back to my wounded self; breathing out, I take good care of my wounded self.”

If you know how to go back to him or her and listen carefully every day, for maybe five or ten minutes or if you can even longer so that you can process the pain involved and understand why it happened in the first place, healing will take place.

Integrate Your Wounded Self Into Your Life!

When you climb a beautiful mountain, invite your wounded self within to climb with you. Open up to it so that as you feel the pain and sorrow of the past because of a lesson you didn’t learn, you can also feel the attendant release of the emotion and counter it with a more positive and uplifting one.

When you contemplate the sunset, invite her to enjoy it with you. Bring it up to speed with the beauty and magnificence of the world. Let it feel the interconnectedness of all creation and all creatures with this great force and the source of all life.

If you do that for a few weeks or a few months on a step by step basis, showing understanding for the mistakes and errors of the past and looking for the opportunity to correct the mistakes and right the wrong, the wounded self in you will experience healing.

It will simply breathe and bask in the euphoria of life and come to the balance of the duality of this world. You would come to the understanding that life is about balance between the positive and the negative.

That when you are at one pole, you don’t allow yourself to be totally overwhelmed by that condition but come rather, you come into the understanding and knowledge that you are balanced by the opposite pole 

And with that understanding and knowledge you move into the opposite pole and become balanced, and can gradually move back into your former state and while connecting at the same time with your true essence and divinity.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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