You Have The Right To Grow And Change!

Nobody is the same person at forty that they were at twenty or even at younger ages – thank goodness!

Healthy long-term relationships grow and change right along with the people in them, finding new ways to connect when old ones don’t work anymore.

But often, people feel threatened when their partner starts changing in significant ways, and try to pressure them into staying the same or staying with them no matter what.

They believe in : “For better for worse till death do us apart”

They forget that growth and ultimately change is an uncontestable part of life and human experience.

The right to grow and change!

Some changes may have major impact on a relationship or on any relationship, like a change in religion or sexual identity. Sometimes these changes mean that you’re no longer compatible with your partner.

It’s okay for them to feel hurt, confused, sad, and even angry and become obsessed with not losing their partners to another and making them stay with them by manipulation one way or the other.

But it’s not okay for them to act like you’ve done something wrong, or to try to force you to stay stagnant and repress yourself for their sake.

The miss the point that along the line you have managed to grow and develop by virtue of spiritual unfoldment and understanding of coming into your true essence and divinity by knowing who and what you truly are.

Every Storm Is A Blessing!

The storm or problem that has come into your life is here to challenge you to seek higher and better and unfortunately, you have brought it into your life consciously or unconsciously.

You are responsible for the experiences in your life, for the state of your environment and ultimately for your existence and reality.

When you accept responsibility for the storm (because you are whether you accept it or not), you can then embrace it totally seeking to understand it and unravel its mystery as well as its hidden blessing (there is always one when you look closer).

Now the storm in turn can embrace you back, unfolding you in its warm embrace as it reveals truth that are unknown and hidden to you for you to see and assimilate.

Now you can see how you have created the events and circumstances that led to the storm in your life. Now you will also see how to easily resolve the situation and bring about peaceful and the best resolution.

At the end of the day, you will never be the same again because if you are true to yourself and look at yourself critically and deeply, you will find that a change has occurred and your understanding has expanded.

Realization Is The Key!

You will realize that now you see things differently and that what you thought was before, isn’t really what it is. You see that the things in life that you held so dearly to were just illusions that had you trapped in the delusion of your own mind.

You realize furthermore that the mind is so powerful and the thoughts you are thinking and have thought for so long have actually created the circumstances and situation in your life.

You can see how you have played the narratives of the mind believing them to be your doing and how the mind had been in control creating by virtue of the law of attraction, the situation and storm that you are faced with.

But in all the bad news is the good news of your growth and development arising from the greater understanding of self and how thoughts and choices have landed you where you are today.

Again the onus is on you to get yourself out of the storm of life and into the greater and blissful experience you have always dreamed of for yourself.

The answer to this is transformation!

Transformation means changing the narratives of your reality and your life into something you would rather have and want, it means that you have to wrestle back control of your life from your mind and its barrage of constant negativity and gloom to your dream of joy and ecstasy.

Transformation means totally changing the story of your life by taking responsibility for all that has happened in your life whether you are conscious of it or not.

It means facing your greatest fear but taking the plunge and taking that bold step forward to change the narratives of your reality.

It means going from negative and negativity to positive and positivity. From sorrow, Anguish and pain to gratitude, love and joy.

As soon as you take that bold step forward and have faced the fear you dreaded all along and have decided to run with it, your creative faculty will open up and you can now see and view everything in your life from a whole point and not from parts.

You can now see everything totally outlined for you, where before you saw no way out, now you see how to maneuver as the solution and answer is right there in front of you.

If you are the only one changing and your partner isn’t or refuses to see the light and move into the high states of vibration and into their true essence and divinity then life will bring about an ultimate split and separation by virtue of the law of attraction.

You both are now attracting differently and must attract to each people and situations that are in tune with them – this is a universal law.

When on the other hand your partner sees the light and changes or is in tune with you every step of the way then you both grow stronger in tune with higher self and development is only natural.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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