The Dangers of Too Much Positivity!

Not having negative thoughts does not in any way mean not allowing reality or experience of life to intrude on your perception of the world.

You Never See How Things Truly Are In This State!

You have to always maintain a sunny, false rosy view of the world so that you can’t see what doesn’t work at all only what you want and desire to see happen.

Remember that it is a dual world and everything in this world exist in relation to its opposite, happy and sad, positive and negative, up and down, black and white, sorrow and joy.

Balance is found and maintained when you can strive for a balance between the extreme poles of creation in your life and world.

When you are happy, be aware and in tune with its opposite which is sadness, when you are positive also be in tune and aware of the opposite which is negative.

Positivity And Negativity Creates Balance!

This creates a balance that keeps you in tune with life and reality at any point in time. Moreover it helps you to stay grounded and focused when you are in either polarity without losing your sense of balance

Lots of studies show that people who are all rosey, sunny and overly positive thinkers die quicker of their disease than others who maintain a more balanced approach or perspective 

For Example!

If you are a woman who has breast cancer and you are a positive thinker or all positivity at all times and in all things irrespective of what is going on in the world, you’re guaranteed to die much quicker.

Main stream media talk about the power of positive thinking all the time but we forget that the world is dualistic and so to maintain a sense of balance and focus, you must be balanced at both poles being neither for nor against the other extreme pole.

What is the relationship between the power of negative thinking and cathartic experience?

Is opening the door to negativity an honest perception of the reality of the world, a healthy way to purge the trauma from your own mind and soul?

Absolutely!

When I talk about negative thinking, you must understand that I am not talking about being negative or negativity per se but a way of counteracting this relentless cheerful positivity that’s often given as the answer to the world’s problems.

To my mind, we don’t need positive thinking or negative thinking; all we need is balanced thinking. Which is just thinking from both ends of the poles and staying balanced in the middle so that where ever you may be at any point doesn’t knock you off as you exist in relation to the opposite end.

Thinking means you don’t load your point of view with either negative or positive vibes. Rather you are simply willing to look at what is. The positive thinkers are in full denial of reality 

Striving To Focus Only On The Positive Can Be Detrimental For Addiction Recovery!

When I talk about negative thinking, I am talking about the willingness to look at reality however it is and not from your point of view or how you wish it to be. It is not a question of whether it’s positive or negative, but rather a question of looking honestly at it.

When people say “I don’t know what I am doing here, I have never had a negative thought in my whole life.”

I often say to myself, “that’s why you’re here. you were in denial of reality.

You may have suffered so much as a child that the only way to survive was to suppress your awareness of that pain and suppress your awareness of your own suffering 

You coped in ways and means that ended up making you more stressed because you took on way too much because you were not willing to look at what it was costing you. You just wanted it to be over and never remember nor recall it again

You just don’t want to face it at all.

Awareness Of Stressors And Their Impact On Behaviour Leads To Greater Happiness!

That’s why relentless positive thinking is actually pathological. That doesn’t mean people should think negatively nor I am canvassing for nor endorsing negative thinking and mindset, i just want people to think in a balanced fashion which means a willingness to face reality exactly the way it is.

 Not as they stubbornly want it to be because their desire and want may not be in tune with their reality and divine will, and when they resist or fight against what is then it persists and may get out of hand.

Total surrender is the key or the answer to life and when you do that, life will open up like a flower to the delight of the morning sun showering you with a higher view of things and life.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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