When You Are Losing Friends: Check Your Thoughts And Emotions!
You may have been worried that something is
happening to you making you think there is something wrong with you as old
friends suddenly seem to drop away or disappear from your life without warning
and you can’t seem to explain what’s happening.
What’s
Happening To Me!
No need to worry my friend, you are
absolutely fine but your state of consciousness just took a leap higher and the
change which brought about a new frequency to you, is now only attracting
everything and everyone in the same frequency.
Like attracts like!
Somehow your mood – thoughts and emotions has
changed and it’s now reflecting on your life.
This could be for the better or the worse so
you need to watch it my friend – be careful of the thoughts and emotions you
are churning out at all times and be mindful and introspective to enable you
stay in the positivity and positive ranges so that the outcome is in your
favour.
Changing Them Is The Key!
As Dweck notes – “all of us have some fixed and some growth
mindsets”, the goal then should be to focus on the latter – growth mindset
rather than on the fixed mindset of the elite who see it fit to run society as
they desire which is usually not in the best interest of all citizenry.
In terms of relationships and friendships, your focus and goal
and any advice being sought after should be based and centered on time-tested
ways of keeping not only your friendship moving forward and growing
exponentially but also on your own self-value and worth.
We Can Learn A Lot
From Break-Ups!
First of all let me ask you some questions and it’s good to
think about this carefully –
What have you learned/learnt from your past rejections and failed
friendships and relationships?
Is there any form of vengeance or plan for executing revenge in
your blood or your mind as you think out ways to settle the score with your
friends for one perceived grievance or the other?
Let me quickly ask you this - Do you or did you hope to have
friends believing there will never be any conflict and that everything will be
perfect from day one?
If that is the case then you have a lot to learn about human
relations and psychology and why we are all so unique yet different.
I Am Asking You To Rethink This Mindset!
When you use problems/issues and challenges in your friendship
as a vehicle/or means for developing greater understanding and in that friendship,
it will serve you better than folding up
and giving in so quickly when the pressure begins.
Taking the time to truly listen and responding honestly to your
partner or spouse from a place of caring, love and understanding is the key to
getting closer to your friends and resolving your problems, issues and
challenges.
The
Human Mind Sees Negativity!
The human mind is wired for negativity and it sees chaos
and trouble while in your true essence you truly are a being of light and love
and ever so interconnected with all life through the great source of all life.
Life is a great school to learn to give love and receive
love but we must choose love albeit which principally is your state of
consciousness.
But the challenges of the hustle and bustle of it all can
bring you to the state of fear, anxiety and worry and before you know it, you
are already moving from the state of love and gratitude to that of fear and
worry.
Before you know it, you may be flip over and get stuck,
seriously stuck in the mind grooves and it narratives.
The mind decides to go into protective mode and creates
its own narratives especially of suspicion concerning your partner and in most
cases it isn’t really true, just mere images of what the mind pictures as
possibilities.
Growing
And Evolving!
But when you are evolving and expanding, you
automatically take responsibility for your life and existence. You want to
create a more comfortable and pleasing life for yourself.
That you must only see that which you desire to see
irrespective of your outer circumstances especially of the picture the mind is
painting.
I would love to hear from you or your thoughts on this
post, please drop us a line.
In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in
life:
“Thank
you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love
reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be.
Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean
Voice Dart!
These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will
serve you even more:
“I
wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light
of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within
you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert
Adam
“Don’t
you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I
am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your
heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all
of our core issues is not a reality for most people.
Taking responsibility to see life differently without
justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would
really help you in the long run.
Every condition, disease or
disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt
with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the
conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a
healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.
Every problem preludes a
negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and
guard them jealously.
Nothing can stop you if you
have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your
limitations.
‘Let yourself be drawn by
the stronger pull of that which you truly love’
The purpose of life is to
discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself
as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine
source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.
As long as you don’t or you
refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can
overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back
handsomely.
A lesson you avoided in a
past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right
or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the
last experience until you recognize it.
This is an interactive
universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we
want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.
Our fears always surface
when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and
conquer it.
You can take back control of
your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things
and have things the way you want it to be.
It takes taking
responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because
whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody wants to listen to
your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except
you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it
around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.
If and when you are now
truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in
your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and
have taken control of your life.
That’s when the creative
centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the
course of your life and manifest your destiny.
To succeed in life, you must
refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or
condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The most important qualities
are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that
you are entitled to abundance in your life.
You can do anything you want
to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.
Victims do not hold that
belief!
So ask yourself – are you a
victim?
Sometimes a little help from
a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can
help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours
only.
Remember if you have
questions or need further clarification, please contact me on the email and
phone numbers listed below:
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