Are You Being Open to Change!

There is the self-defeating attitude that almost everyone has that is lurking somewhere inside of us and almost straight from the start, starts to show and manifest as negativity, such as - “well, the last five didn’t work out for me, so why should I bother again or do it again?”

This stems from thinking that your personal qualities are permanent and cannot change or be different or by believing the same of your partner’s qualities, and that nothing can be done about it as you see no end in sight or anything good coming out of it.

Successful relationships thrive on each individual changing, but the other has to be on board for what emerges. If one person is open to change and the other opposed, an impasse is guaranteed.

Learning To Change Your Position In The Relationship Puzzle!

The term “afraid of change” and the mentality behind this concept sometimes collides with superiority complexes, in which a victory for your partner is irrelevant or even damaging if you yourself don’t see the same for yourself or have not experienced some sort of gain from it.

If your initial reaction to your partner’s good news is a non chalant “how is that going to affect me?” rather than “good for you!” and being truly happy for your partner and rejoicing in their good fortune knowing that somewhere around the corner yours is about to emerge.

Then it shows bitterness and envy and this will dominate in the relationship eventually bringing strife into the relationship. There is nothing sustainable about being with someone who tries to drag you down instead of lifting you up.

Don’t Be Afraid To Embrace Change!

You are afraid to surrender and embrace change because you don’t want to lose control, but you never had control all you ever had was fear and anxiety, both causing the fear to embrace change and a new way of seeing things.

Why do people associate or equate change with something to fear or fear of the unknown, yet the unknown holds so much treasure and promise if only we can embrace it and welcome it gladly with open arms.

Many have been afraid of changes in their lives but upon accepting and embracing it has come to discover that it was a great source of blessing and miracle in their lives.

As soon as they had shed the fear or the need to fear what they do not know nor understand, they had come to such peace and joy as they embraced their true divinity and found only bliss there.

Their embrace only brought greater understanding and wisdom that they would never had nor dreamt of coming though did they hold unto the fear of the unknown.

Why do you fear the unknown so much?

Why Do You Fear What You Don’t Know Nor Understand?

Yet the answer or solution lies in not resisting this unknown and the tandem change that consequently comes with it, but totally and wholesomely embracing this change and keying in into this great gift of the divine source.

There is always a spiritual lesson in ever ailment, malady, disease, disorder or conditions that assail the body and forces you to take a closer look at your life, especially at your habits and conditionings.

A lot of people don’t understand that it is our habits that creates the behaviour and attitudes that are responsible for our lot in life.

Yet at any given opportunity they would rather dodge change than have to do something differently than the way the subconscious mind wants to do it.

If you recall, you would remember that the subconscious is a “habit mind” that is resistant and in some cases violently resistant to change and would do anything and everything to keep you attuned to the ways it is used to.

Change Is To Be Embraced!

Yet the answer to changing your life and the course of your life, especially if you are dissatisfied and not happy with your life is through this same change.

Ironical isn’t it?

No matter which course or direction you are on or where your life is headed, change is inevitable whether you like it or not or whether you believe it or not.

Remember the popular slogan “the only constant thing in life is change”

Anything impossible becomes possible through change.

Change brings growth, empowerment and transformation.

You are energy!

You are pure light!

You are light and love!

Why not give into your fear and instead of being afraid of what you don’t know and since fear is nothing but a thought in the mind, it’s the usual narratives of the mind, that keeps you trapped in the old and not wanting you to be free to find the new.

It knows the new shall set you free and you shall become a new person and a new being ever evolving and with greater awareness and higher state of consciousness.

Why not challenge yourself then and be open to change and then face this thing called fear that you had previously feared because you had thought that it was a monster, you will be amazed at what you will discover.

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In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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