Your Self-Value And How You Preserve it!
In a culture dominated by early marriages among girls that are barely out of their diapers and barely walking and then to celebrity break-up gossip and tales, we can at least hope to learn from past mistake and misguided errors, culture and tradition.
Changing Them Is The Key!
As Dweck notes – “all of us have some fixed and some growth
mindsets”, the goal then should be to focus on the latter – growth mindset
rather than on the fixed mindset of the elite who see it fit to run society as
they desire which is usually not in the best interest of all citizenry.
In terms of relationships and friendships, your focus and goal
and any advice being sought after should be based and centered on time-tested
ways of keeping not only your relationship moving forward and growing
exponentially but also on your own self-value and worth.
We Can Learn A Lot
From Our Break-Ups!
First of all let me ask you some questions and it’s good to
think about this carefully –
What have you learned/learnt from your past rejections and
failed relationships and marriages?
Is there any form of vengeance or plan for executing revenge in
your blood or your mind as you think out ways to settle the score with your
former partner or spouse?
Can you forgive your spouse or partner totally for whatever perceived
grievances that they may have caused you and move on?
Moving On After A Failed Relationship!
How you leave or move away after a failed relationship will
invariably influence your next relationship or friendship depending on how the
situation may be, we all carry baggage along with us from every failed
relationship to another whether we are conscious of it or not .
Letting go of bitterness, resentment, anger and all negative
thoughts and emotions usually against your former spouse or partner before
engaging with your next partner is critical for the success of that new relationship.
Let me quickly ask you this - Do you or did you hope to enter a
relationship believing there will never be any conflict and that everything
will be perfect from day one?
If that is the case then you have a lot to learn about human
relations and psychology and why we are all so unique yet different.
I Am Asking You To Rethink This Mindset!
When you use problems/issues and challenges in your relationship
as a vehicle/or means for developing greater understanding and intimacy in that
relationship, it will serve you better
than folding up and giving in so quickly when the pressure begins.
Taking the time to truly listen and responding honestly to your
partner or spouse from a place of caring, love and understanding is the key to
getting closer to your partner or spouse and resolving your problems, issues
and challenges.
Love
Triumphs Over Suspicion Which Can Destroy A Relationship!
When
there is suspicion in a relationship, the love starts to wane and may
eventually die out if the cause is not addressed and worked through by both
parties in order to sustain the longevity of that relationship especially if it
was built on love and affection.
The Human Mind Sees Negativity!
The
human mind is wired for negativity and it sees chaos and trouble while in your
true essence you truly are a being of light and love and ever so interconnected
with all life through the great source of all life.
Life
is a great school to learn to give love and receive love but we must choose
love albeit which principally is your state of consciousness.
But
the challenges of the hustle and bustle of it all can bring you to the state of
fear, anxiety and worry and before you know it, you are already moving from the
state of love and gratitude to that of fear and worry.
Before
you know it, you may be flip over and get stuck, seriously stuck in the mind
grooves and it narratives.
The
mind decides to go into protective mode and creates its own narratives
especially of suspicion concerning your partner and in most cases it isn’t
really true, just mere images of what the mind pictures as possibilities.
Growing And Evolving!
But
when you are evolving and expanding, you automatically take responsibility for
your life and existence. You want to create a more comfortable and pleasing
life for yourself.
That
you must only see that which you desire to see irrespective of your outer
circumstances especially of the picture the mind is painting.
Love And Understand Your Partner!
When
you realize that your partner is a being of light and love like you are, who
has their short comings and is doing the best that they can do in the present
moment, then you can easily overlook any shortcoming in your partner and stop
the narratives of the mind.
When
you can truly be conscious and realize the game playing out and try, really try
to stay positive and ahead of your mind.
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In
closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank
you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love
reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be.
Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean
Voice Dart!
These
words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I
wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light
of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within
you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert
Adam
“Don’t
you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I
am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your
heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking
responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a
reality for most people.
Taking
responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and
blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long
run.
Every
condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for
review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt
and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and
that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.
Every
problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and
emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing
can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move
through your limitations.
‘Let
yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’
The
purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and
experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a
part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of
the divine.
As
long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a
challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will
pay you back handsomely.
A
lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until
you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson
is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.
This
is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons
and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.
Our
fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to
face the lesson and conquer it.
You
can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want
it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.
It
takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life
because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody
wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t
take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and
desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions
come in.
If
and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the
patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are
causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s
when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to
help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.
To
succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the
prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to
succeed.
The
most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and
that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.
You
can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe
that it is possible.
Victims
do not hold that belief!
So
ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes
a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a
host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is
yours and yours only.
Remember
if you have questions or need further clarification, please contact me on the
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