Be The Change You Wish To See In Your Relationship!
So many people think that in their
relationships, the job of keeping the relationship afloat and going steady is
on their partners while they are in for a smooth ride and to enjoy themselves.
They couldn’t be more wrong!
Relationship
Is Team Work!
The onus of keeping a relationship together
and creating a long lasting bond rests on each partner in equal measure.
One partner doesn’t bear the job of keeping it
together – alive and fresh while the other goes on with the flow not taking any
responsibility for the eventual outcome of the relationship.
It doesn’t work that way!
Then we wonder why so many relationships are
falling apart and many couples parting and going their separate ways due to
“irreconcilable differences”.
If each partner would sit up and own their
role in the success of their relationship, accept responsibility for it and be
willing to do whatever it takes to make it a success, then there can be more
partners staying in functional loving relationships.
The incidence of couples parting due to
irreconcilable differences will be a thing of the past.
The question is – how many partners are
willing to take responsibility for their relationship.
How many are even aware they need and have to
educate themselves on how to have functional loving relationships.
Why
Do We Stop Educating Ourselves As Adults?
Many of us learn until the day we die and yet there are intelligent
people who are emotional rollercoasters and catastrophes when it comes to
relationships.
They can’t seem to get it right no matter how hard they try to
make things work. Part of the reason for this might just be the fact that love
hasn’t been considered as a subject worthy of investment and sacrifice.
Some many end up dating the same partner over and over again
wondering how that could have happened in the first place when they were so
astute and careful with some even becoming very choosy.
Yet they ended up with the same partner they detested and fervently
prayed against.
They did not understand that they were responsible for drawing
the same men – mostly abusive ones in the case of the females into their lives
and must face the music.
If they do not understand the law of attraction and subsequently
taking responsibility for their lives and the kind of relationship they end up
in, then they will continue to suffer.
They will keep moving from one dysfunctional relationship to the
other, from one abusive or manipulative partner to the other and the cycle
continues and soon they are drawn into the never ending abysmal depth of pain
and misery in their relationships.
It is tragic!
Try as they might and no matter what they do, it seems like the
stars are just not aligned in their favor.
Are You Emotional When
It Comes To Relationships?
When
you are emotional and quick to lose it in any minor quarrel or disagreement,
then how can you stay ahead of the game in your relationship?
When you are with an
emotional partner it can be a frustrating and heart wrenching struggle to keep
the relationship together except they come out of their state and learn to
accept responsibility and not throw tantrums like a three year old.
Be The Change You Seek!
When they are tired of
throwing tantrums and truly seek change and radical transformation and they are
at the level where they are far removed from being biased and are willing to
accept responsibility and make their relationship work.
Then the change can
truly begin within themselves and over time spread to their partner and
transform not only themselves but their partners and the relationship takes a
new turn for the best.
They can now operate
from the core essence of who and what they really are vibrating at the
frequency of light and love spreading love, joy and happiness to their partners
and their loved ones.
They can now see their
partners also as divine beings of light and love and each operating at their
level of consciousness and are doing their best where they are.
For most, their new
state of reasoning and understanding brings a new state of consciousness that
puts them out there to attract a better mate and partner and their former
partners leave to meet their match according to the law of attraction.
This new state of
being brings like-minded people your way and you attract like-minded partners
who would love you like you do and treat you with utmost love and respect.
But remember, it
starts with you!
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In
closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank
you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love
reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be.
Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean
Voice Dart!
These
words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I
wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light
of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within
you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert
Adam
“Don’t
you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I
am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your
heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking
responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a
reality for most people.
Taking
responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and
blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long
run.
Every
condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for
review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt
and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and
that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.
Every
problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and
emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing
can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move
through your limitations.
‘Let
yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’
The
purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and
experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a
part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of
the divine.
As
long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a
challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will
pay you back handsomely.
A
lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until
you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson
is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.
This
is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons
and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.
Our
fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to
face the lesson and conquer it.
You
can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want
it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.
It
takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life
because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody
wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t
take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and
desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions
come in.
If
and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the
patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are
causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s
when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to
help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.
To
succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the
prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to
succeed.
The
most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and
that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.
You
can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe
that it is possible.
Victims
do not hold that belief!
So
ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes
a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a
host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is
yours and yours only.
Remember
if you have questions or need further clarification, please contact me on the
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