You Have The Right to Express Your Needs and Have Them Considered!

A relationship most times may mean coming to a compromise between your needs and those of your partner, mate or spouse in order to maintain harmony and balance in the relationship but you should always be able to say what you need and have your partner, mate or spouse consider how best to support you.

You Have The Right To Express Your Needs!

There is a huge difference between:

“After thinking it over, analyzing and exploring different options, I don’t think I can do that for you”

And:

“No, I’m not interested in expending my energy in any way or in any form to support you.”

The first one shows consideration for you and your needs by your partner, mate or spouse and even though it was rejected at the end of the day, you and your needs were given due consideration and care.

In the second case, your partner, mate or spouse isn’t even willing to listen to you or your needs, neither are they willing to give you the required consideration as expected in the relationship.

Growing And Evolving!

But when you are evolving and expanding, you automatically take responsibility for your life and existence. You want to create a more comfortable and pleasing life for yourself.

You begin to take charge of all events and that means taking over the pilotship and control of your life and recreating your life.

By this stage you are truly expanding and can see the great illusion of life and the picture is beginning to take shape as you understand that you mustn’t be caught up in the game of life and the narratives and play of the mind.

That you must only see that which you desire to see irrespective of your outer circumstances especially of the picture the mind is painting.

 

 

Love And Understand Your Partner!

When you realize that your partner is a being of light and love like you are, who has their short comings and is doing the best that they can do in the present moment, then you can easily overlook any shortcoming in your partner and stop the narratives of the mind.

When you can truly be conscious and realize the game playing out and try, really try to stay positive and ahead of your mind.

Most people would rephrase to means – being aware. This comes with an expanded state of consciousness.

Awareness means you know the mind game and how the mind likes to stay in its mental grooves and aberrations and doesn’t like change of any form as it likes to stay always in status quo.

You come to the realization that you are not the mind and you are not what you are thinking, you are not your thoughts.

 

Build A Healthy Relationship By Standing Up For Your Rights!

If you realize or are just realizing that you have let some of these rights that are fundamental for your happiness and well-being get overridden in your relationships, please don’t blame yourself.

Standing up for yourself in your relationship can be really hard and most times takes a lot of practice and more practice to stay abreast of it all.

You are always working on it and it is always a work in progress and you couldn’t do it without the help of supportive friends, family and possibly your friendly therapist and ally to show the way and guide you appropriately.

Reading lots of books and articles and getting help on self-empowerment is crucial on your journey to mastering yourself and creating your happiness for yourself in your relationship.

Talking with a counselor or a therapist as you deem fit, and getting perspective from friends who are good at standing up for their own needs and who can help you by guiding you on your own journey so that you can do the same for yourself are all good ways to develop this skill.

So by expanding and taking charge, you become aware of the serenity and truth of life and what it really is.

Then you and your partner can continue your connection in light and love through the great source of all life that has brought you too together to learn to give and receive love and to help each other become the best versions of yourself.

I would love to hear from you or your thoughts on this post, please drop us a line.

In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1. THOUGHTS

2. WORDS

3. ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

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