Aging Gracefully For The Modern Woman

There are those who are aging and those who are aging gracefully, you can always tell the difference between the two. You know, the lucky ones who seem to be getting better and better with each passing year like fine wine never better but always flawless while some are just learning by trial and error.

Well, take heart you students of the School of Hard Knocks (that what life is really about). You make a mistake and you learn to choose better and wiser.

Some people think its punishment but I truly beg to differ, I disagree totally. Fine wine for example only take better and better each passing day as it undergoes one refinement after another and not on the first day it was produced.

The same applies to people and all creatures, you take a foot forward and taste what it feels like, if you land well, good for you. If on the other hand, you falter and perhaps take a nose dive to the ground or fall, then when you get up you will pay more attention to what’s before you.

Like a toddler taking his faltering steps to the delight of his/her adoring parents and siblings and the bigger family circle, you look and calculate more and even though there is fear in you and your heart palpitates, you must take the step as it is a basic prerequisite of life – you must walk no matter how long it takes.

When you are able to face your fear squarely and conquer it while having the courage to keep going even with faltering steps and the fear of the unknown, you stick to your gun as the vision of success fuels your drive and keeps you going.

And eventually, you are proud of yourself as having failed at some point numerous times, you finally succeeded in your mission and got the final point and destination.

You are now like the fine wine, which has gone through the rudiments of processing and finally came back and out better than can be imagined to the delight and joy of the tasters and drinkers and the world in general.

So is it with the modern woman who is aging gracefully and having been through life and mastered to conquer her thoughts and emotions and watch what she eats, has set her body for the path of greatness.

As she ages she is more refined and regal in looks and conditioning, her behaviour and outlook in life lets you in on the secret that she has become “fine wine”.

The graceful agers aren’t aging better, they’re just aging smarter and smarter and the secret isn’t necessarily in what they’re doing. It’s in what they aren’t doing. And as life expectancy continues to increase across the world, there’s no time like now to look and feel better.

Eating Too Much Salt

High blood pressure is one of many conditions whose likelihood increases with age. In fact, nearly two-thirds of the elderly ones over 60 have high blood pressure.

A high sodium diet is a trigger. And since aging gracefully isn’t just about your outside, you should also keep your inner world healthy as well. 

Hypertension can lead to serious health complications like heart attack, stroke, and a decline in cognitive functioning like reasoning and other basic activities.

So go easy on the extra salt on your meals and try to steer clear of anything with more than 20 percent your daily recommended value of sodium.

Negativity

 “Stay away from negative people, places and things and always look positivity in all things at all times and all places.

Remember to be thankful for everything that you have in your life, including all the conditions, challenges and problems that have not only challenged you but also made you stronger and wiser.

Numerous studies have shown that positive people are less prone to mental decline and lead happier and more successful lives.

A 2011 survey found that older people who are happy have a 35 percent lower risk of dying than their unhappy peers.

Positive people were also less likely to develop coronary heart disease, according to research at Harvard University.

 

Watching Too Much TV

Getting too comfortable on the couch is unhealthy at any age, but particularly as you get older. Not only will valuable time slip right through your fingers and before your eyes, but you may be shortening your life.

Even more so when you don’t exercise both your body and your brain.

An Australian study found that for every one hour of TV watched after the age 25, most people lose 22 minutes from their life expectancy.

Ironical isn’t it?

If that wasn’t bad enough, watching TV makes you vulnerable to several other aging pitfalls like a sedentary lifestyle and social isolation.

Not to mention the daily dose of negativity.

Excessive Sun Exposure

To some extent there’s no avoiding the lines and wrinkles that accompany aging. But if you’re getting too many rays without protection, you may be severely damaging your skin.

Applying sunscreen can protect your skin from wrinkles, sun spots, and loss of firmness or elasticity.

It’s better to prevent aging with a little SPF than trying to reverse it with anti-aging potions, these could mean asking for trouble.

Stress

 

In Life, you will always have its stress, from family to work to finances and to people and the environment. It’s unavoidable and can cause a barrage of health problems like sleeplessness, depression, and heart disease.

Some studies suggest stress can make you appear up to 10 years older and most times even older.

But people who are aging gracefully have learned to manage their stress level and keep it maintained at the lowest level possible.

Whether it’s meditation, contemplation, exercise, or just taking a couple of minutes for yourself every day to unplug from technology and just be by yourself, it’s highly beneficial for your health in the long run.

Whatever your motivation to work out maybe, feeling good, blowing off stress, losing weight, you can add one more to the list: Staying young.

In a recent study on older adults, it was discovered that those who exercised functioned physiologically similar to younger people.

Your skin is the largest organ in your body and the only one you can see. Anything that's good for your body is good for your skin.

Although you may have heard warnings that certain workouts (namely running or aerobics) can cause wrinkles and sagging from the up-and-down motion, that's not the case. Whatever you love doing, whether that's running, spinning, or lifting keep on doing it.

They are the secret to your aging gracefully and most importantly for the modern woman.

In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in life:

“Thank you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.

Jean Voice Dart!

 

These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.

Hafiz

“Within you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.

Robert Adam

“Don’t you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.

Rumi

“I am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.

Jesus

“Your heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.

Mooji

 

Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most people.

Taking responsibility to see life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.

Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.

Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.

Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your limitations.

‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love’

The purpose of life is to discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.

As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.

A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you recognize it.

This is an interactive universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.

Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.

You can take back control of your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you want it to be.

It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:

1.  THOUGHTS

2.  WORDS

3.  ACTION

Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.

If and when you are now truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.

That’s when the creative centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest your destiny.

To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.

The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance in your life.

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.

Victims do not hold that belief!

So ask yourself – are you a victim?

Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.

This is all for now!

 

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