When You Have Zero Control Over Your Life But You Think You Are In Control.
A lot of people think they are in control of their
everyday life as they follow the normal routine of waking up, going to work,
coming back home and going to bed only to wake up the next day to start the
whole process all over again.
Oprah Winfrey (the host of the popular long running U.S
television talk show – “The Oprah Winfrey Show” which aired years back said
during an interview about her life, that her grandmother who had raised her was
admonishing her to pay attention and learn to be a good maid like she was.
She told Oprah (a little girl) who she raised at that
time that if she was nice and worked hard, the white folks will treat her well
but Oprah said she knew even at that young age that she wasn’t going to become
a maid like her grandmother was.
She already saw and environed another life and path for
herself where she was in charge of her own life creating success for herself.
She chose not to follow the path her grandmother had planned out for her but to
create and manifest her own path.
And look at the great success she made of it!
Whereas there are others who would just have followed the
path Oprah’s grandmother had envisaged for her and like a lamb being taken to
the slaughter house will give up and hand over their personal power to others
because they believe them to be right.
And you guessed it rightly, what have they just done!
They think they are in control of their life by following
the dictates of another and believing that they are the ones in control when
they are obviously not in control.
They have given over the control of their lives and the
mind has the field to play out whatever it desires,
It begins to create its own narrative based on what its
external environment presents and the emotional and mental impressions from
past lives and this current one.
Remember, the mind would do anything and everything to
maintain its status quo and remain as it is believing it’s for your own good
and security when obviously you would have preferred a different life or
circumstances.
Why would you give up your personal power to be and do
anything you want to do over to something else or someone else? It’s like being
stuck in a prison.
The great poet Rumi framed it so beautifully in a poem:
“nothing is more heartbreaking than to see a person locked up in a cage with
the keys beside him”.
It simply means that he is oblivious to the keys being
beside him and the fact that he can easily get himself out of the cage at any
time he wishes, its all up to him.
The same applies to giving your power over to the mind
which is supposed to be a tool for your growth and development but has suddenly
become the master acting out its own narratives and story whether right or
wrong and manifesting its reality in your life.
Whereas you are supposed to be the one in charge using it
most effectively and efficiently to create the life you desire while fulfilling
your mission here and now.
Do you now wonder why you see some people crying and
lamenting their woes, decrying how life is so unfair to them and how is so
hard. Yet it takes a simple turn around to change their lot in life.
All they had was take back control firstly by accepting
responsibility for all that has befallen them by:
Taking stock to understand why it all happened.
Looking at it all from a detached point to see the whole
picture clearly (some people will say 360 point of view)
Look out for the lesson inherent which the condition is
all about.
Again stepping back to see how possible outcome would
work out for the better from the whole.
Then applying the best possible outcome in your life.
That my friend is when you begin to truly take your power
back and take over your life back and finally become the one in charge of your
life.
You can now direct your life in the best way for growth
and development and to manifest an amazing life which is what you have ever
dreamed of.
In closing, i believe the
wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank you God, for this
beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and
every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look
to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean Voice Dart!
These words of Inspirations
from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I wish I could show you
when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within you is the light of
a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert Adam
“Don’t you know it yet, it
is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I am the light of the
world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your heart is the light of
the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking responsibility and
recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most
people.
Taking responsibility to see
life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or
anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.
Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual
condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of.
Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation
reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred
and a miracle has happened.
Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so
watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment
and the discipline to move through your limitations.
‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which
you truly love’
The purpose of life is to discover who you really are,
know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the
body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love
and serve all creatures of the divine.
As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a
victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and
consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.
A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to
the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for
it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you
recognize it.
This is an interactive universe where we all work
together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether
we are aware of it or not.
Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when
it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.
You can take back control of your life and drive it the
way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you
want it to be.
It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that
have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held
responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or
victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of
your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when
the answers or solutions come in.
If and when you are now truly ready to take back control
and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind
aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s when the creative centers open within and you can
finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest
your destiny.
To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a
loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you
evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth
and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance
in your life.
You can do anything you want to and be anything you want
to, provided you believe that it is possible.
Victims do not hold that belief!
So ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health
Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey
into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.
This is all for now!
Remember if you have questions or need further
clarification, please contact me on the email and phone numbers listed below:
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