Lamentation And Complaints won’t Get You Far In Life
Most people just love to come out lamenting and
complaining and expectedly playing the role of the victim of life, rather than
for them to just step back and take a critical review of what went wrong and
try to fix it.
Some females and I may dare to say quite frankly a lot of
females like to play the role of the “damsel in distress”, they seem to forget
or aren’t aware that a true gentleman doesn’t want a damsel in distress nor be
stuck with one.
If you doubt me, ask the guys!
A guy just wants a female who when faced with the ever
constant fact of life – expect the unexpected, would make bold to stand and
face the monster or whatever face the challenge or problem comes with, and try
to solve the riddle or problem tackling it head-on.
They don’t sit around probably crying, lamenting and
bemoaning their victimhood to anyone that comes along or passes, but are such
high octane people who don’t let anything or anyone get them down or get under
their skin.
They would step back and look more critically at the
problem or challenge before them looking at it from the whole vantage point –
360 degrees, rather than from the parts which is usually what’s available to
them at any given instant and what they can see.
By re-looking at the issues at hand and seeking to
understand the following:
1. What
the problem or issue really is
2. How
this came about
3. What
the lesson or moral behind this is
4. Why
this is happening at this time
5. What
immediate actions to take on it
6. Creating
effective solutions to resolve the matter.
When they have placed themselves in this high vantage,
high octane position and thereby a high state of consciousness, the creative
center and faculty within open up offering deeper perspective and effective
solutions and course of action.
This same faculty and center is what is available to the
great scientists, mathematicians, statisticians, physicists, enlightened ones
and all who have come into greater beingness and state of divinity and cosmic
consciousness.
What an amazing state to be and behold!
Now that you are fully immersed in this state after
having taking total responsibility for the problems and challenges in your
life, you will now see how these issues and problems were created in your life
in the first place.
You will also understand the state of mind also called
the “passion of the mind” that brought this on and about in the first place.
Once you understand the how and why then the way forward
and solutions opens up to you like the icing on the cake and viola, life
couldn’t be more perfect as you have the solution and arsenal to solving life’s
riddle finally in your possession.
And that ends a simple day’s life journey and you look
forward to the next day, and what lessons and challenges it has in store for
you, as you continue on your journey to divinity and full realization of who
you truly are.
But if on the other hand, you continue on the downward
spiral of lamentation and complaints, then you will only attract more and more
of that.
You will continue to see more things and issues that
brings more cause for worry and therefore more lamentations and complaints.
And as expected
you will only continue on that downward spiral getting more and more involved
in the web of deceit and illusion that is this lower worlds.
More and more problems will suddenly seem to know your
home address and be making their way to you and you seem so lost in your gloom
and sense of doom.
Some people will even be completely and irrevocably lost
in a sense of doom that will engulf them so rapidly and tightly that it will
seem that they are choking and dying at the same time.
If they will but will search to find the answer and
solution to their problems themselves by taking total responsibility for the
state of affairs in their life, the will the light shine on them so that they
can find their way out of the doom and gloom and back into the light of their
divinity and true self.
That would give an instant and great relief!
This is what taking responsibility for yourself and your
life rather than expecting others and the society at large to pity you and see
you as a victim of circumstances.
It’s someone else’s fault and not yours!
Someone is out to get you!
They hate you!
They are after you!
All excuses after excuses and even more excuses.
Life is about you and the life you create for yourself
and for every choice that you make whatever it is, whether it is good or bad,
there are consequences for all and you are held liable for all choices.
When you realize this, then you can quit being and
feeling like a victim because the truth is “there is no victim anywhere”.
Whatever you are going through today was a long time
coming and had decided to visit you today.
You cannot out run your past nor the consequences of past
thoughts, words or actions no matter how clever you think you are, or how smart
and intelligent.
It will always catch up with you!
Ponder on that for awhile!
In closing, i believe the wisdom below will serve you in
life:
“Thank
you God, for this beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love
reflected in each and every moment, no matter how challenging life may be.
Remind me to always look to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean
Voice Dart!
These words of Inspirations from the enlightened ones
will serve you even more:
“I
wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light
of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within
you is the light of a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert
Adam
“Don’t
you know it yet, it is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I
am the light of the world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your
heart is the light of the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking responsibility and recognizing that we cause all
of our core issues is not a reality for most people.
Taking responsibility to see life differently without
justification, judgement and blame, rejection or anxiety, fear or anger would
really help you in the long run.
Every condition, disease or
disorder is a spiritual condition that has come up for review and to be dealt
with and taken care of. Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the
conditions or situation reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a
healing has occurred and a miracle has happened.
Every problem preludes a
negative thought and mindset so watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and
guard them jealously.
Nothing can stop you if you
have the courage, commitment and the discipline to move through your
limitations.
‘Let yourself be drawn by
the stronger pull of that which you truly love’
The purpose of life is to
discover who you really are, know and create yourself and experience yourself
as who you really are (not the body that houses you) as a part of the divine
source to give and receive love and serve all creatures of the divine.
As long as you don’t or you
refuse to see yourself as a victim then life becomes a challenge that you can
overcome with commitment and consistent work and it will pay you back
handsomely.
A lesson you avoided in a
past life will be forwarded to the current life until you get the lesson right
or understood the reason for it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the
last experience until you recognize it.
This is an interactive
universe where we all work together in each other’s lessons and life whether we
want it or not or whether we are aware of it or not.
Our fears always surface
when we least expect it and when it does, its better to face the lesson and
conquer it.
You can take back control of
your life and drive it the way you would rather want it to be and have things
and have things the way you want it to be.
It takes taking
responsibility for all the wrongs that have happened in your life because
whether you agree or not, you are held responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody wants to listen to
your cry of wolf or denial or victim mentality and it won’t take you far except
you sit still, take stock of your life and determine and desire to turn it
around and that’s where and when the answers or solutions come in.
If and when you are now
truly ready to take back control and look out for the patterns and lessons in
your life to understand the mind aberrations that are causing your problems and
have taken control of your life.
That’s when the creative
centers open within and you can finally have the tools to help you change the
course of your life and manifest your destiny.
To succeed in life, you must
refuse to see yourself as a loser no matter what the prevailing situation or
condition might be and you evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The most important qualities
are self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence and that you understand that
you are entitled to abundance in your life.
You can do anything you want
to and be anything you want to, provided you believe that it is possible.
Victims do not hold that
belief!
So ask yourself – are you a
victim?
Sometimes a little help from
a Therapist or Mental Health Consultant like myself and a host of others can
help guide you on this journey into an amazing life that is yours and yours
only.
This is all for now!
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questions or need further clarification, please contact me on the email and
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