Vulnerability Is Not Weakness But Strength
People think that when you are vulnerable, it means that
you are weak and will be preyed upon by others who look unto you to derive joy
and strength in your moment of disgrace and embarrassment.
Society especially has made it mandatory that any male –
any right thinking male shouldn’t show emotion in public as it is sign of
weakness. The male pride and arrogance forbids the men from being himself and
showing emotions.
They couldn’t be more wrong!
When you cannot connect with your emotions, it because
you have created an identification with the mind which has created a false
self-called “the ego’ as a substitute for basking and manifesting in your true
essence and being.
The ego needs are numerous and endless and it feels
threatened and vulnerable and lives in constant state of fear and desires.
Always needing or wanting one thing or the other and yet when it receives the
gift, is never full satisfied as other needs and wants arise to take its place.
It is always in a constant state of “fight or flight”,
believing the world is a cruel and hostile place to live in and everyone is
after you for one reason or the other.
For you to maintain this state of false security, society
tells you that you cannot show emotions and appear weak especially if you are a
male.
The ego is always seeking something to attach itself to
in order to uphold and strengthen its illusionary sense of self – being a man
and therefore readily attaches to your problems and the sense of self importance
and security.
Many in the throes of this great illusion don’t recognize
the play of the mind and therefore unconsciously or sometimes consciously do
not want to be free of them, because of the false sense of security and power
it gives them as it would mean the loss of the self if they desire freedom.
They forget this remarkable but wise words of old:
What you resist persist!
Life is a series of events that are interconnected yet
each is a separate lesson with an invaluable lesson that is meant to equip you
with the right tools and skills on your sojourn on your mission on earth to
become more Godlike.
Emotions are meant to teach you great wisdom only when
you allow them in without resistance of course, move with the flow of the
lesson inherent and let it play out.
Don’t try to manipulate the scheme of events or control
the outcome, because then you would only be deceiving yourself and come out the
ultimate loser.
Get this straight once and for all – you cannot control
the events of your life and you cannot control the divine essence from which
you spring from.
You are its beloved, borne out of its great love and
mercy and is sustained for as long as its love abides and your lesson in that
particular incarnation keeps running. Karmic lessons must be worked out and
resolved before you can move to the next level.
Most karmic lessons are just corrections of our mental
aberrations and they are:
1. Anger
which is principally borne out of fear
2. Greed
3. Vanity
4. Lust
5. Attachment
If you truly look at the list above and securitize
thoroughly, you would see that they are the ills of the world summarized into
simple terms and if you can guard and watch out for them then you have the
power to shape your life the way you want it and fulfil your destiny and
birthright.
Vulnerability is affiliated to the emotional pattern and
it’s basically borne out of anger and fear, when you allow the mind to control
your life out of unwillingness to accept responsibility for your life, then it
goes into overdrive to protect you.
The mind makes you believe that the world and its
creation is your enemy and that life is simply not fair yet this is a great
illusion because the laws of God and consequently that of the world is fair and
just.
Everything in your life you have created and manifested
whether you believe it or not.
Perceiving an unseen or imaginary enemy is the way of the
mind to keep you enmeshed in the throes of illusion and give control of your
life to it.
When you decide you have had enough and would rather want
to create your life as you want it then you are ready to take responsibility
for your life and recreate the events and circumstances of your life.
Then you would discover the deception and illusion
surrounding all that you have been taught and believed to be true especially
from childhood. You see how your childhood training had created a pattern that
has brought the chain of events of your life into existence and how you
manifested everything in your world.
You soon discover that all macho talks and the likes is
just a way to cover up inadequacies, lack and wait you get it – fear. Yet it is
absolutely unnecessary and a simple way out or solution is simply to work
through it and resolve it.
Working through your emotions in the name of
vulnerability actually makes other people see you as a human being capable of
emotions and not some robot on the prowl.
It shows you as flesh and blood and not as some
insufferable and unbearable person who is too ashamed to let others see your
weaknesses and flaws yet it’s your weaknesses and flaws that make you human and
capable of giving love and being loved in return.
When you persist in resisting your emotions, it persist
and becomes overtaken by the mind which now in control having been made a
master by you unconsciously, keeps it locked up in denial while keeping it away
from the conscious mind but it remains buried in the subconscious mind.
You believe you have everything under control yet you
don’t because it is running in the background under the control of the mind and
before long you begin to question why your life is the way it is.
You wonder why your relationships are doomed to fail even
though you gave it your best shot, you turn the blame over to the other person
and the world and label others as the perpetuator and yourself the victim.
You forget that everything you see in your life you have
attracted by virtue of what is going on in your inner world whether you are
conscious of it or not. So you attracted the doomed relationships because you
refused to take responsibility and work through your emotions, learn the lesson
and be done with it.
It’s actually human to let go of your emotions and just
live.
You are after all flesh and blood and not a super human.
In closing, i believe the
wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank you God, for this
beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and
every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look
to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean Voice Dart!
These words of Inspirations
from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I wish I could show you
when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within you is the light of
a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert Adam
“Don’t you know it yet, it
is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I am the light of the
world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your heart is the light of
the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking responsibility and
recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most
people.
Taking responsibility to see
life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or
anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.
Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual
condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of.
Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation
reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred
and a miracle has happened.
Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so
watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment
and the discipline to move through your limitations.
‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which
you truly love’
The purpose of life is to discover who you really are,
know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the
body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love
and serve all creatures of the divine.
As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a
victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and
consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.
A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to
the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for
it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you
recognize it.
This is an interactive universe where we all work
together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether
we are aware of it or not.
Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when
it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.
You can take back control of your life and drive it the
way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you
want it to be.
It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that
have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held
responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or
victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of
your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when
the answers or solutions come in.
If and when you are now truly ready to take back control
and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind
aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s when the creative centers open within and you can
finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest
your destiny.
To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a
loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you
evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth
and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance
in your life.
You can do anything you want to and be anything you want
to, provided you believe that it is possible.
Victims do not hold that belief!
So ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health
Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey
into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.
This is all for now!
Remember if you have questions or need further
clarification, please contact me on the email and phone numbers listed below:
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