Denial Is The Worst Enemy Of Transformation
Denial is just that!
You aren’t ready to confront a situation that you most
likely have caused and instigated or don’t even want to be involved in whatever
challenges and problems have arisen from a certain situation caused by you or
decision made by you.
You would rather stick your head or bury your head in the
sand like the Ostrich rather than face whatever is there, resolve it and get it
over with.
Here in enter Denial, you delude yourself to the reality
of the situation and would rather pretend it doesn’t exist. You withdraw from
the responsibility of life and would rather let the mind take over and run the
show.
Now enter the mind and its barrage of narratives and
habits, since a servant has been put in charge while the master is in denial
and hiding out, its only reasonable to expect it to run the usual narratives
and create a scene where usually there is none.
The mind is a habit mind and as such will stick to its
narratives and conclusions irrespective of what is available before it. It
doesn’t care for the truth or the evidence before it.
It is very resistant to change, I repeat it is very
resistant to change and would fight tooth and nail not to change its narratives
and conclusions but rather to play it out again and again.
Why you ask?
Because this is where it is very comfortable and would
rather stick it out here.
For as long as you give the control of your life, issues,
problems and challenges to the mind, you will remain in a rut and only taking
back control and facing that which you feared the most and taking it head-on
can save the day.
If after sometime you really get to that point where you
are tired of it all and decide you want a change and you want things to be different,
all you have to do is create the change and be the change toy desire and need.
How you may ask?
Simple – by transformation.
Transformation means changing the narratives of your
reality and your life into something you would rather have and want, it means
that you have to wrestle back control of your life from your mind and its
barrage of constant negativity and gloom to your dream of joy and ecstasy.
Transformation means totally changing the story of your
life by taking responsibility for all that has happened in your life whether
you are conscious of it or not.
It means facing your greatest fear but taking the plunge
and taking that bold step forward to change the narratives of your reality.
It means going from negative and negativity to positive
and positivity. From sorrow, Anguish and pain to gratitude, love and joy.
As soon as you take that bold step forward and have faced
the fear you dreaded all along and have decided to run with it, your creative
faculty will open up and you can now see and view everything in your life from
a whole point and not from parts.
You can now see everything totally outlined for you,
where before you saw no way out, now you see how to maneuver as the solution
and answer is right there in front of you.
For some people on the other hand, it takes battling to
come out of some serious health conditions and challenges top get them to this
point. Examples include:
1. Depression
2. Heart
attacks and condition
3. Angina
4. Diabetes
5. Hemiplegia
6. Hypertension
7. Hypotension
8. Stroke
And a host of others too numerous to mention, but I do
believe you understand where I am coming from and where I am headed.
In this grave condition where their refusal to love
themselves, face their fears, feel it and conquer it had led them to this grave
condition, they seem to be at that point in life where you are either winning
or losing in the game of life.
Unfortunately they are at the losing point and must
decide if they want to live and save themselves or totally give up on life and
die.
It is at this point that most decide they don’t want to
die yet because they either still love their loves ones and life itself or
suddenly awaken to so many beautiful and great things they still wish to
accomplish in life.
Or they suddenly realize that death is too ominous for them
and scares them silly and they would do anything and everything to survive and
get back on their feet, even if it means facing the monster in the closet.
Sadly for some others, they simply don’t want the
responsibility of facing their mistakes and errors and choose death because
they think they can run away from their mistakes and the responsibility of
correcting it and resolving the whole issue and problems.
How wrong can they be!
Death is not the end of existence, its only but one of
many.
If they had chosen the gift of life so given and
cherished it with gratitude and love, they would have faced their problems and
challenges bravely and squarely, they would have come to see and realize that
it wasn’t as ominous as they had thought it was.
They would have seen that all they needed was to catch
the lesson in the challenge and problem and change that part of themselves
creating it and that’s how everything would have dissolved and they would have
realized that there was no cause for panic at all.
So for you my beloved reader, which is it going to be for
you – Denial or Transformation?
In closing, i believe the
wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank you God, for this
beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and
every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look
to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean Voice Dart!
These words of Inspirations
from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I wish I could show you
when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within you is the light of
a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert Adam
“Don’t you know it yet, it
is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I am the light of the
world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your heart is the light of
the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking responsibility and
recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most
people.
Taking responsibility to see
life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or
anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.
Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual
condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of.
Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation
reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred
and a miracle has happened.
Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so
watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment
and the discipline to move through your limitations.
‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which
you truly love’
The purpose of life is to discover who you really are,
know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the
body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love
and serve all creatures of the divine.
As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a
victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and
consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.
A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to
the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for
it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you
recognize it.
This is an interactive universe where we all work
together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether
we are aware of it or not.
Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when
it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.
You can take back control of your life and drive it the
way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you
want it to be.
It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that
have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held
responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or
victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of
your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when
the answers or solutions come in.
If and when you are now truly ready to take back control
and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind
aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s when the creative centers open within and you can
finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest
your destiny.
To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a
loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you
evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth
and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance
in your life.
You can do anything you want to and be anything you want
to, provided you believe that it is possible.
Victims do not hold that belief!
So ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health
Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey
into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.
This is all for now!
Remember if you have questions or need further
clarification, please contact me on the email and phone numbers listed below:
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