You Can Overcome Pain And Grief With Gratitude And Love For Life
What
would you do if you had no fear?
I bet you would do just about anything you want or desire
and be fearless even in the face of imminent danger and death.
What
would you do if you realize that what you thought was your grief and pain was
actually a figment of your imagination (mind) and doesn’t even exist because
you are life itself, indestructible, cannot die and lives on eternally?
I bet you would laugh and laugh at your own folly
rejoicing in your truth (the truth of your beingness) instead at what you
thought was your death and demise like the great poet Rumi said eons ago.
Let me enlighten you how you can overcome pain and grief
with gratitude and love for life, I will share two stories to explain:
In the first case is a young lady in her forties, whom we
will call Rebecca. I her twenties and thirties according to her and in her own
words, she was into relationships eager to please people especially the men in
her life.
She felt that to keep these men in her life, she would
bow down to their every whim and desire and do their bidding just so they stay
with her. She would forgo so many things for herself so she could make them
happy and yet they had little appreciation for her.
They treated her so poorly and walked over her still
expecting her to do whatever they wanted without any regards for her feelings
and wants and particularly her happiness.
They still left her for other females who wouldn’t even
bother with all what she did for them or even condone what she went through for
these men.
One day, standing in front of the mirror she realized how
she hadn’t loved herself because if she had, she wouldn’t have gone through
everything she did for these me.
She realized at that moment with gratitude in her heart
and tears in her eyes how she had been brought to that very moment to truly
love herself knowing she was better than she thought and deserved better than
she had received and she made a promise to herself that she would love herself
more and would attract only those who were her worth.
The second case is Ben, as a child he was rejected and
often wondered why his parents rejected him enough to place him in foster care.
He concluded that he was not alright and wasn’t lovable.
He lived in this state for years shying away from people
and relationships and often having issues at work. Yet he couldn’t shake off
the feeling of not being enough.
One day a friend invited him to a seminar and reluctantly
he went and that was the beginning of a new lease of life for him.
He volunteered and during the therapy, he was made to
understand how his parents leaving him was not his fault in any way and that
they only acted in what they felt was in his best interest without bothering
about what his opinion would be.
He came to the understanding with gratitude in his heart
that they may have not been financially or psychologically capable of taking
care of him so they left him for someone else who can.
At that moment his heart burst open with love and joy for
this great understanding and for the opportunity to change the course of his
life now that he knew better.
So we have two people who were able to turn pain and
grief into gratitude and love for the opportunity life has just given them to
transform their lives from the negative to the positive, from the dark into the
light.
I bet you can too if you open your heart to gratitude and
love and see the great blessing and wonder that is before you.
Whatever you are passing through today has a lesson attached to it and it’s usually has to do with loving ourselves and understanding that life is a gift, to know who we are and why we are.
When you are ready the path opens up to finding love and
joy in your life again.
In closing, i believe the
wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank you God, for this
beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and
every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look
to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean Voice Dart!
These words of Inspirations
from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I wish I could show you
when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within you is the light of
a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert Adam
“Don’t you know it yet, it
is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I am the light of the
world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your heart is the light of
the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking responsibility and
recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most
people.
Taking responsibility to see
life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or
anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.
Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual
condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of.
Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation
reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred
and a miracle has happened.
Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so
watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment
and the discipline to move through your limitations.
‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which
you truly love’
The purpose of life is to discover who you really are,
know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the
body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love
and serve all creatures of the divine.
As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a
victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and
consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.
A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to
the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for
it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you
recognize it.
This is an interactive universe where we all work
together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether
we are aware of it or not.
Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when
it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.
You can take back control of your life and drive it the
way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you
want it to be.
It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that
have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held
responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or
victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of
your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when
the answers or solutions come in.
If and when you are now truly ready to take back control
and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind
aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s when the creative centers open within and you can
finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest
your destiny.
To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a
loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you
evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth
and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance
in your life.
You can do anything you want to and be anything you want
to, provided you believe that it is possible.
Victims do not hold that belief!
So ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health
Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey
into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.
This is all for now!
Remember if you have questions or need further
clarification, please contact me on the email and phone numbers listed below:
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