Addictions: Check Your Negative Thoughts And Emotions And See How They Create This Reality
It creates a pathological relationship to one’s mood
altering experience that has life damaging consequences in the long run.
An addict is a person who is addicted to the source of
the addictions and it could be any of the following:
1. Alcohol
2. Tobacco
3. Harmful
drugs
4. Toxic
Substances
5. Negative
Thoughts
6. Negative
Emotions
It is a common occurrence to see some people when they
are faced with life’s usual challenges and problems to turn to the sources of
addiction listed above as a means to escape the situation or circumstance.
They think when they consume these toxic substances they
can readily escape their problems and by some stroke of luck, it will have
vanished or be over when they get back to their normal senses.
They refuse to deal with their challenges or too afraid
to look deeper into how and why such is happening in their lives.
Rather like the ostrich, they would rather bury their
head in the sand than face the challenge and work through it.
Their refusal to take responsibility for the challenge that
has presented itself will drive them into these situations that are not
necessary if they will but only take a moment to do the following:
1. Pause
2. Step
back
3. Take
a deep breath
4. Look
at the situation critically
5. Understand
what it means
6. Find
out why it has happened
7. Look
deeper for the lesson inherent
8. Understand
that all situations no matter how terrible, will one day pass away.
9. Determine
your role in the situation
When you can actually work through the steps listed above
and answered the questions effectively, you can now see the whole scene in HD
and clearly shown and played out for you, then you are ready to figure out the
answer.
Now you can remove your head from the sand and get to
work pronto!
Life is filled with problems and challenges and everyone
has their own problems and challenges, which is unique to them and life will
always present problems and challenges whether you like it or life.
It’s the way life is so get used to it!
To move on especially in view of your current challenges
and situations, means you have to first and foremost accept responsibility for
the problems and look deeper to solving it.
Understand that most problems and challenges are only life’s
lessons to show where you are either erring or have erred and all you need to
do is correct the habit which is usually as a result of your thinking pattern.
Negative thinking habits and feelings when the thoughts
are growing and getting deeper and deeper as you become so enmeshed in it and
have created a life character, create this addiction because you have seeded
control of your life over to the mind.
Remember that the mind loves status quo and doesn’t like
to move away from the familiar to the unfamiliar or change, it would fight to
remain in this throes of negativity that it is in.
Most times the mind would deceive you with the premise
that it’s for your own good or that it is protecting you which is all cock and
bull story.
It will only keep you trapped in that state or condition
and worse still keep you going down and further down the rabbit hole of
illusion and chaos until you are so lost or trapped that you don’t see a way
out.
That may even bring you to the level of even greater
negativity that could bring on deeper sinking into the pit of illusion and
being buried in it and eventually seeking death as the way out of this abysmal
depth because you don’t want to face what’s right in front of you.
You don’t want to correct an error you made or have made
that has caused problems for you, maybe because it’s embarrassing or shameful
and you cannot bear to face such and be put through such harrowing experience.
Let me point something out to you – what if it’s just the
mind giving you the false premise or narration that its embarrassing or
disgraceful and you will be put to shame.
What if when you eventually decided to brace yourself and
bravely face the situation, it turned out differently and the situation worked
out simply and so well that you are astounded. Everyone understood the
situation and saw it for what it was exactly and held no grudge against you at
all.
They knew why it happened and for the fact that you could
bravely face it, they supported you every step of the way with their love and
goodwill and what you thought was an uphill was eventually a piece of cake.
Can you see the play of the mind in this whole drama?
Let’s look at it from another angle shall we:
You decided you weren’t brave enough to face it, work
through it and conquer it and like the ostrich above, you hid your head in the
sand and buried yourself refusing to take responsibility and giving control
over to the mind.
The mind takes over and starts its own narrative of ever
increasing and worrisome images of what could happen and this makes you sink
deeper and deeper into despair and unhappiness.
As these thoughts increase and the emotions rise, your
body starts to decline in health and vigor as the adrenals are over worked and
the endocrine and immune systems starts to shut down.
The cells are starved and also start giving up and at
this point you may be hospitalized, except you take over responsibility of your
life from the mind, you are signing your own death warrant as death at this
point isn’t far away.
But if you can consciously take back control of your life
from the mind or allow experts like myself and a host of others to come to your
aid, then you gradually heal and get back your health and vitality and recreate
your life.
But you must be willing to do the hard work involved
because at the core of healing is the truth that all true healing is
self-healing.
In closing, i believe the
wisdom below will serve you in life:
“Thank you God, for this
beautiful day today. Help me to always see your love reflected in each and
every moment, no matter how challenging life may be. Remind me to always look
to my heart for the LESSONS and BLESSINGS in life”.
Jean Voice Dart!
These words of Inspirations
from the enlightened ones will serve you even more:
“I wish I could show you
when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being”.
Hafiz
“Within you is the light of
a thousand suns, within you is unimaginable beauty”.
Robert Adam
“Don’t you know it yet, it
is your light that illuminates the worlds”.
Rumi
“I am the light of the
world. You are the light of the world”.
Jesus
“Your heart is the light of
the world, don’t cover it with your mind”.
Mooji
Taking responsibility and
recognizing that we cause all of our core issues is not a reality for most
people.
Taking responsibility to see
life differently without justification, judgement and blame, rejection or
anxiety, fear or anger would really help you in the long run.
Every condition, disease or disorder is a spiritual
condition that has come up for review and to be dealt with and taken care of.
Once the lesson is truly learnt and absorbed, the conditions or situation
reverses itself and clears out and that’s when we say a healing has occurred
and a miracle has happened.
Every problem preludes a negative thought and mindset so
watch your thoughts and emotions carefully and guard them jealously.
Nothing can stop you if you have the courage, commitment
and the discipline to move through your limitations.
‘Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which
you truly love’
The purpose of life is to discover who you really are,
know and create yourself and experience yourself as who you really are (not the
body that houses you) as a part of the divine source to give and receive love
and serve all creatures of the divine.
As long as you don’t or you refuse to see yourself as a
victim then life becomes a challenge that you can overcome with commitment and
consistent work and it will pay you back handsomely.
A lesson you avoided in a past life will be forwarded to
the current life until you get the lesson right or understood the reason for
it. Each time the lesson is more intense, than the last experience until you
recognize it.
This is an interactive universe where we all work
together in each other’s lessons and life whether we want it or not or whether
we are aware of it or not.
Our fears always surface when we least expect it and when
it does, its better to face the lesson and conquer it.
You can take back control of your life and drive it the
way you would rather want it to be and have things and have things the way you
want it to be.
It takes taking responsibility for all the wrongs that
have happened in your life because whether you agree or not, you are held
responsible for all your:
1. THOUGHTS
2. WORDS
3. ACTION
Nobody wants to listen to your cry of wolf or denial or
victim mentality and it won’t take you far except you sit still, take stock of
your life and determine and desire to turn it around and that’s where and when
the answers or solutions come in.
If and when you are now truly ready to take back control
and look out for the patterns and lessons in your life to understand the mind
aberrations that are causing your problems and have taken control of your life.
That’s when the creative centers open within and you can
finally have the tools to help you change the course of your life and manifest
your destiny.
To succeed in life, you must refuse to see yourself as a
loser no matter what the prevailing situation or condition might be and you
evaluate what you can do to succeed.
The most important qualities are self-esteem, self-worth
and self-confidence and that you understand that you are entitled to abundance
in your life.
You can do anything you want to and be anything you want
to, provided you believe that it is possible.
Victims do not hold that belief!
So ask yourself – are you a victim?
Sometimes a little help from a Therapist or Mental Health
Consultant like myself and a host of others can help guide you on this journey
into an amazing life that is yours and yours only.
This is all for now!
Remember if you have questions or need further
clarification, please contact me on the email and phone numbers listed below:
francherbalandmakeover@gmail.com
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